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ok, so i've been friends with this guy since i was like 3, and we used to tell each other everything. I soon figured out that he liked me and i said yes when he asked me out. about a week and a half later, i broke up with him, because he was almost too shy, and i couldn't talk to him. Now we dont talk anymore except when we're with our friends. I really really want to be friends with him again. Please help me for breaking the ice.

Answer 1

tell him you didnt want this to ruin you friendship and you would like to be good friends again

Answer 2

I am curious how you can have a conversation with a friend, but not a boy friend when they are one in the same. What made it different. Usually people who are good friends first make excellent relationships. You already have something in common, just liking each other. As you grow up, feelings could become deeper, and you just enjoy the growing commitment to each other. Just don't let intimacy get in the way. Just because you move to a higher level does not mean life should get complicated. Enjoy each other without expectations. If a little holding hands and if you are older, a little goodnight kissing seems right, then respect each other as valuable people. When love blossoms, then enjoy the sweet times, and prepare yourself for the future of life commitments to each other, with all the ups and downs. When you get in your senior years when all the lust and activity has waned, then you still have a wonderful friend to live with the rest of your life. don't get in a hurry.

Answer 3

You only went out with him once? What was there to break up other than your friendship? I suggest you apologize and tell him that you want to go back to being just friends.

Answer 4

JUST BE COMPLETELY HONEST WITH HIM, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANY KIND OF TRUE FRIENDSHIP WITH ANYONE, WITHOUT COMPLETE HONESTY, SO SIT HIM DOWN, AND SAY LOOK WE WERE PRETTY GOOD FRIENDS FOR A LONG TIME, AND I THINK WE MESSED UP A LITTLE WHEN WE DECIDED TO GO OUT, SO WHY DONT WE JUST LOOK AT THAT AS A DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE, AND CLOSE THE DOOR ON IT, AND TRY REAL HARD TO GO BACK AND PICK UP WHERE WE LEFT OFF BEFORE OUR EXPERIENCE . OK FRIEND OF MINE, CAUSE I REALLY REALLY REALLY DO MISS MY FRIEND.

Answer 5

what is with you girls? don't you know it's a good thing for a guy to be shy, you sure don't want to lose your virginity right away do you?

i say he respected you and you dont respect yourself enough to know the difference.

good things take time dear.

i would further like to add that boys don't mature as fast as women....

TAKE YOUR TIME. Be young. Be happy! Be PATIENT!

Answer 6

I'm in a relationship thats very similar to yours. My fiance and I knew each other since we've been born - our cribs were next to each other in the hosptial. Growing up, we were always together, we always told each other everything...we didn't have any secrets. He was always the shyer one of us (I'm kinda a social butterfly...I'm friends with just about everyone I meet), and he only had me and a few other ones...but mainly, me. He never talked much to other people, and everyone would kinda make fun of him because he was always so quiet and would never smile. But what they didn't know was that when we were together, he would talk my ear off, and would smile so brightly that his whole face would light up. It was amazing. Anyways, he admitted that he had fallen in love with me when we were 13 (a very gutsy move, because we had both been sending signals to each other for almost a year, but neither wanted to ruin our friendship in case it didn't work out), and we started to go out.
One thing I couldn't stand after awhile was how he as still so quiet with everyone else. I wanted the whole world to know how happy I made him...selfish, kinda...but I felt like people should know how happy we REALLY made each other...that it wasn't the same as it was before we started to go out. Anyways, we took small steps. I would introduce him again to friends, and find similar things that they liked.
To make a long story short, he's now more popular then I am - not in a snobby way...but in the-everyone-knows-him-and-hes-always-smiling-now-way.
My advice for you would be to pull him aside, and say that you are sorry that you broke up with him because of him being shy. That looking back on it now, that was one of thing things you liked about him...and how if you could please be friends again. It takes allot of guts, and it might kill your pride...but you will feel so much better-and stronger- once you do. Depending on what he says, you can do one of two things. The first thing is, just remain friends with him...try to get closer...and see if you can bring him out of his shell once you have earned his trust again. Believe it or not, you probably hurt him deeply when you broke up with him. Guys who are shy feel emotions allot stronger then the average guy (like, the football jock who is dense and dumb will take allot longer to catch on to how you feel compared to your friend, because he watches how people react to things more). Don't try to change him right away...do it subtly. Introduce him to a friend or two that he doesn't know. Have a converstation, just the 3 of you, about something you all like or have in common. Gradually, introduce him to more people and have conversations with them...it doesn't have to be anything long or deep...just something that can involve him for awhile. You know, ask a couple questions that you know he knows the answers to (for example, a favorite TV show or band that all 3 or 4 of you like. He can put in his input). See how things go...maybe before you know it, he will be the one starting converstations and hanging out!
If you decide to go back out with him though, make sure that he knows its not because you want to change him. He is going to feel insecure and like he has to prove him. Tell him its because you missed him in your life, and you want to spend time with him one-on-one again.
See what he says...
Tell me what happened after you do! Best wishes!

Answer 7

just be friends with him again. If u two want to go back out then go ahead.. if he's too shy, let him ajust. he'll come around, it may not feel comfortable to him, so just give him so time

Answer 8

You just crushed the guy. Watch JUST FRIENDS... You will learn a lot of what you just did to the guy. It helps a lot.

Answer 9

maybe you should just act like you did before your whole boyfriend/girlfriend relationship happened. it might be hard, but its worth a shot, and well it might make him feel more comfortable around you again... Good luck! =]

Answer 10

try and talk to him and see what happens....when you guys are not with your friends call him up and talk to him and that kind of stuff and start to tell him that you are sorry for breaking up with and tell him that you want to be friends with him again and that kind of stuff!! GOODLUCK!

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