My boyfriend wants to marry me. He has told me plenty of times. I said I wanted to wait until after the baby. Well that's already happened, now he says he just wants to be more financially stable first. How can I make him see that I don't care about the money, I just need that commitment from him. It's not about money, just want to be with him.
2006-08-28 12:05:38 · 16 answers · asked by karissa s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems to me that financial stability should have been taken into account before the child was concieved. Now that issue is past, he must take responsibility for his actions. Help him see that his parental responsibility is paramount and that marraige is the next logical step that probably should have already been taken.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 12:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Lost M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your bf is right. You probably should wait until you have financial stability first. Love won't pay the bills and feed and cloth a little one. Also, you don't want to push someone into marrying you. If it's right, it will happen when the time is right. Are you in school? Do you work too? Doing these things may help you in the future too. You need to think about these things now that you have the responsibility of a child
2006-08-28 12:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't care about the money. However, I must say that your boyfriend does have a point. It's not about money. It's about being able to care for you and your baby. If you marry him now, where in the world will you get the cash to pay for all expenses. Raising a child is difficult and requires a lot of time and money to be put into it. Understand that he only cares for your welfare and the child's.
2006-08-28 12:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by Crescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then take control of the situation and tell him its either now or never, money or not. Some men need a little extra push now and then as we lose our way in life sometimes. If you leave it up to him, youre going to hear every excuse a guy can come up with to cover his cold feet. Remind him the wedding vows cover just about everything thats important. Just dont give him any time to think about it. Good luck
2006-08-28 12:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello? He's stable enough to have a child, but not stable enough to get married? Sounds like a lame excuse. You can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do. You've told him no plenty of times, now it's your turn to wait.
2006-08-28 12:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, what you told us, if he is still serious, about the marriage, he'll do it.
He could just be a bit afraid of being able to take care of you both, now the baby is here. It's a big commitment, taking care of a wife and child. He may just be scared of that responsibility.
2006-08-28 12:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make men understand much of anything, but if things are ok between the two of you whats the rush, if you aren't married and things don't work out its a whole lot easier to move on with your life
2006-08-28 12:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing how most guys are dogs and all, he is probably no longer attracted to you now that you've had a baby. some dudes are like that. i don't know why but they are. i don't know what to tell you. move in with your folks until he decides to be a man.
2006-08-28 12:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by Nobody Special 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dumb girl! marriage before the carriage. its a shame you had that opportunity and passed it up . who is to say he will still carry through with it. babies dont always make a man want to stay somtimes it will send them running.
2006-08-28 12:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by purpleartof5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him better yet tell him you want to be with him when he's holding the baby
2006-08-28 12:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cjara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋