Now I am very crushed and i miss him alot even though i know that things werent going that well . I dont want to be weak. I want to be strong. all he did was make me feel guily and like everything was my fault. Affter leaving him i dont know if i did the right thing. I cant stop thinking about him. What should i do? I am very depressed.
2006-08-28 11:59:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You did the right thing. It is possible that you love him, but when somone isn't the one we can be with. Sometimes we are more comfortable with our pian and dysfunction because we don't know how to surrive without it.
You are feeling depressed becasue you have faced reality and took a step to get out of a bad relationship. You know you need something more positive and you have taken a step to do that.
Give yourself time to grieve. Let it out, then pull yourself together and move on.
Don't question your decision.....no one needs to be with anyone who make you feel tuilty and everything is your fault. That isn't a relationship, that is a dictatorship.
He wants to control you. And becasue you cared so deeply for him you let go of yourself and tried to make him happy.
You need a good relationship where both people work to make each other feel special.
You are feeling a bit alone.....but believe me being alone for a while it is better than being in a bad relationship.
Be strong. You deserve a good guy who will cherish you and not chip away at your very foundation.
You will make it, you are sad and you feel the loss and he is putting crap on you. You don't deserve a man who puts crap on you.....you need a man who makes you feel special and wonderful and makes the world a better place for you to be in .
Get your brain busy with other things so your brain isn't so focused on him.
You will make it though this. You have taken the first step by breaking away from him, now you are in the place of being sad by the loss. Then you will move on and you will be happier than you ever imagined.
Best wishes
2006-08-28 12:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please seek counseling if you feel very depressed and talk to your friends and family to help you through this difficult period. I know it's difficult because you just broke up. I don't know how long you've been together, but it sounds like it's been a while because your feelings are so strong. I think you did the right thing: if this has been what the majority of your relationship with him has been like, then he's not worth it and you're worth more than being with him. Time to move on and forget about him. No woman deserves to be treated that way. Good luck - I know things will work out for you.
2006-08-28 12:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by niceguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this doomed from the beginning. If he was treating you this way during the relationship, and it only got worse, then you did yourself a favor by sending him packing. Love is always hard to get over, but you have to look back at the whole relationship and realize that this was not good anyway. You'll be better for this, I promise you that.If he did this to you and treated you that bad, then he cared about himself and nothing else. Sure there were good times, but if he does this then itll never be better and the whole thing would be a waste of time for you. Be grateful that you can be free of this, and move on to better things. People always think that theres nothing better than the person that they are with, but i promise you, there is another out there that will be more agreeable and bettr for you. Good luck.
2006-08-28 12:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do everything to keep your mind occupied. Go out with friends. Read. See movies. Most of all, just know that what you're going through is normal. Go ahead and cry and grieve the end of the relationship. Remind yourself of the reasons you left him - you were unhappy - so that even though you are depressed now you'll realize in time that you made the right decision for you. Ask yourself, if you went back to him, do you think he'd really change? Most often the answer is "no." So just take care of yourself and know that things will get better and easier to deal with in time.
2006-08-28 12:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it i know you hear that from almost everyone but i was in a relationship for 3 and a half years during high school and just after and it ended about 4 months ago. I think the biggest thing that helped me was hanging out with freinds and just getting my mind off of her. I just kept telling my self that there issome reason why we broke up and that there is going to be someone out there that will not make me feel like she did. So keep your head up and stay strong.
2006-08-28 12:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by big04silverado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't doubt yourself girlfriend. You did the right thing. I've been there and it's not a good feeling, but once the pain passes you will realize you are much more happier without him. Just keep yourself occupied and if he calls ignore his calls because if you answer he'll talk you right back into that bad relationship and that will prolong the inevitable and make things worse.
2006-08-28 12:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he treats you like you say he does then he's not the right man for you. You need to connect with another man and see where that relationship takes you. No man is worth staying with if he treats you badly. Go out with friends and don't let this guy get to you. He's not worth your time anyways. Move on and in the long run you will be happier.
2006-08-28 12:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by Vivian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong! You made the first move and it was a good one!!! A guy that tries to make you feel guilty or insecure is having those same feelings himself! He pawns it off on you to make himself feel better! Don't give in, he will never change. Find a guy who will trust you and respect you and not treat you like sh*t!
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2016-12-14 13:44:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough position to be in. You know the situation best. There is no point is lingering on just for habit. If you don't feel respected, it would come to a nasty end. And if you cave in, you establish his spremacy in the relationship and he can treat you like doormat.
2006-08-28 12:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by caughtin2minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋