well we have a 4 year old daughter and I am not ready for a second child, my life is going so good I'm busy with my job and my Law school and of couse my daughter. I never had an abortion but scared to What is your advice?
2006-08-28 11:51:11 · 19 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Do what you feel is right. That is a very hard decision. No one can tell you how you will feel about it or that its wrong or right. You have to sit down and way out your options. If you decide to go ahead with the abortion, do not let anyone make you feel bad about it. They do not know all the details of your situation and thus can not judge. How far along are you? Adoption is always a possibility as well.
2006-08-28 12:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well It Seems Like Ur Still In School Datz Good...
Well Dont Get A Abortion Im Serious Ull Regret It Sooner Or Later....
Just Have Da Baby And Just Be Strong And Keep Ur Head Up Remember Ur A Good Mother Juzt Get The Every 3 Month Shot
Like U Get A Shot Every Three Months So U Wont Get Pregnant
No Matter If U Dont Use Protection My Momz Friend Did Dat And Just Ask Ur Doctor About That But Wait Till U Have The Baby....
Good Luck And God Bless!
2006-08-28 20:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Kay-Cee♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 options ~
Adoption
Abortion
Keeping the baby
Adoption seems like the toughest choice knowing you can't get attached to your kicking baby plus a set of parents hovering over you to take your baby right from the hospital. Not to mention explaining the pregnancy to your 4 yr old. I personally couldn't do it. It's nice for people that can't have their own kids and if you're a giving enough person, might work for you.
If you're going to get an abortion, you should do it as soon as possible. It's sick to do it in the 2nd trimester and just selfish and cold hearted. It stays with you for the rest of your life, but gets easier as time goes by. My life would have been much more difficult on all levels if I had more than the child I have.
Keeping the baby is the most difficult as you well know since you've had your daughter for 4 yrs now. Most people aren't ready for kids when they have them and you certainly don't need that cheating man to raise them should you decide to extend your family. You're better off without him what ever you choose. He's abusing you mentally by cheating on you.
Best wishes!
2006-08-28 19:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by could_B_N_E_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what's right for you and your family. If you feel that having an abortion is right for you, go to a clinic that offers counseling services and talk with someone about your options and about any fears you have concerning the actual procedure and the psychological side effects. They can really help assuage some of the apprehension you are feeling. Remember, having an abortion does not make you a bad person, and you shouldn't let anyone tell you otherwise. Whatever you decide to do, you have made a responsible decision to do what is necessary for the well-being of yourself and your family. Best of luck.
2006-08-28 19:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by faolan22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe in abortion. i got pregnant twice by mistake..and kept both of them. i am only 23....my oldest is 3 1/2,i went through the should i have an abortion thing too. I;m married but it still is a struggle to get by. if you have a good job...you can take maternity leave and since you are a single parent now you can get financial aid and in most states that means they will pay for child care for you. there is always a way to get by and you don't have to give up your child to do it..there is nothing more beautiful than to hold your own baby in your arms. if you have this baby....you will not regret it for one second. things may be hard and you may have to put your life on hold....but all i can say is...it's your baby.
2006-08-28 19:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by crystalfaria11306 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm against abortions. I do believe that a baby is a gift from god and I know it must be tough the situation you're in but I don't think that's the only way out. You should have the baby, give it a try and if you feel it's something you really can't handle than consider giving him/her up for adoption, you'll not only save a life but make another happy. Please think about it. Best of luck to you and your family.
2006-08-28 19:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you don't feel you are ready I wouldn't jump into it not because you're not with the father but because of your daughter you have right now, and how everything is going with you and your job and school but it is up to you i have had an abortion it is emotionally upseting but you have to look at all points of view
2006-08-28 20:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt the place to get an answer to a question like that. You need to sit with somebody who really cares about your well-being and talk this one over. We are a bunch of anonymous typists who have nothing to lose by giving you bad advice. I hope you have someone that can talk this over and help you make the right decision.
2006-08-28 18:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going to tell you the truth her i had and abortion 3 months before i got pregnant again for our daught and i tell you what my daughter is 6 months now and i still cry every night cause of what i've done this is something that you whould really think about long and hard
2006-08-28 21:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by marriedw1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you have to make that decision yourself. No one can make it for you. It's hard one but....you need to do what's best for you. I mean you already have one child and having another could be tough but it could be great as well. You can do anything you put your mind to so if you decide to have the baby I'm sure you could continue on with school and work. Just do what's in your heart and what you think is best for you.
2006-08-28 20:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋