How to handle my kid's dad's new crazy new girlfriend?

Question

My ex and I have 2 kids.Well he hasnt spent any time with them since christmas last year.I've tried to get him to take the kids but he says no.My neighbor told me he's been lieing and telling his girlfriend that I never let him see them.My neighbor also said that his girfriend said she would kick my a** if I was talking $#!t about her.All I've ever said about her was that I thought she seemed like a nice person.Anyway he calls yesterday saying he wants to see the kids.I asked him why he was lieing to his girlfriend about me not letting him see the kids then him and his crazy b!t<# start cursing and hollaring.I tried to scream to his b!t<# that it was a lie but of course they were so into verbally attacking me I could'nt be heard.I hung up.Then he calls back and I said to his girlriend this is really none of your business and she said Im making it my business.I asked her when did she and lay down and f*** and make these babies.What would you say or do if you was in this situation?

Answer 1

i would take all the ******* money.take his *** to court so he cant see them at all...you should not have to listen to her or his abuse,,nor your kids. he sounds like a real ***!!! he doesnt deserve to see the kids only when its convienent for him...screw that..i put a stop to my sons dad trying to see him when he felt like it,,now my son dont even bother with him anymore....yor kids dont need to listen to mommy arging with that *** and getting stressed over it...take care of your kids yourself,,,,and keep them away from them two crazy people. change your number. if he comes to see them tell himhe has to go through the court with supervised visits if hes lucky......oooo makes me mad people butting in when it has nothing to do with them.

Answer 2

Okay number one, it is not any of her business. She needs to stay out of this because those kids are not hers they are yours and their dad's.

Number two, I really dont think that you need this drama in your life. You need to talk to your ex and tell him to tell her to stay out of this. Also dont listen to what other people have to say about your relationships. Even if you do trust your neighbor, I think that you should try to deal with things and try to find out things on your own.

Number three, I think that you should let things play out on their own. You need to tell your kids that you have never prohibited your ex from seeing him, but that it is merely his decision to not want to see them. Dont tell them this in a bad way but tell your kids that maybe your ex is going through a few things and that soon he will be there with them again. I mean it seems that your ex is digging his own hole. Eventually, if this continues, your kids are going to grow up and see what he has been doing and what you have been doing and they will see for themselves that it was him all along who allowed another person in between their relationship. If they decide that it was his doing that they never saw him then that is something that he is going to have to deal with.

Believe me his time will come, in the mean time I think that you should take it like a classy adult and leave him alone about seeing the kids and things will play out on their own. Just be the best mom that you can be, which I am sure that you are.

Answer 3

Regardless of what she thinks or feels these are still his children. I would advise you to speak to him alone without her in the background because she sounds like she has issues and so does he but it is what it is and if he chooses to lie to his girlfriend then he is going to find out later on when the kids get older that he is not going to be wanted around. You really have to stress to him that these children need both parents if it is healthy and if it is not then leave him alone. Children have a funny way of knowing whether their parents love them or not.

Answer 4

Girl, Just be the bigger perosn in the situation. Dont feed off of her ignorence, It seems to me that she's young. And be careful what ou tell him because men are just as big a gossipers as women are, so make sure you keep the conversation just about the kids with him. Oh and by the way she wont fight unless she wants to go to jail so you dont have to worry about that.
Just keep your composure and everything will work out well in your favor.

Answer 5

I would have done the exact same thing that you did and told her to lay down w/him and have kids w/him on her own and leave the business concerning our children alone except for one thing I wouldnt yell at her i would kill her Azz w/kindness unless she got physical now that would be going to far and as for him I would tell him dont worry about me calling him again about his OWN children if he doesnt want to make an effort then forget him but dont worry about his crazy *** girlfriend cause she wont be in the picture long she doesnt get it she isnt married to him and she isnt your kids step-mom and she will be replaced sooner than she thinks.

Answer 6

It sounds like everyone involved here has a lot of growing up to do. You can't MAKE your kid's father see them, if he doesn't want to, but if he DOES want to, don't stop them. Stay out of the name calling, yelling, screaming and cussing. It's none of your business, what he does with his girlfriend, so don't discuss it with him, the only things to two of you should have to discuss...AT ALL..is the kids, nothing more.

Answer 7

just b a lady and rise above it.i used to go out with someone like him and he had a child with someone else he told me all sorts of **** about her and tried 2 stir **** but i wouldnt b drawn in u dont know what hes said about you why would u want your kids round people like that anyway kids are not stupid they pick up on more than u realise as long as u dont call their dad names in front of them then nothing can come back on u as 4 his girlfreind shes just insecure and jealous that he had a life b4 she came along and u dont know what lies hes been telling u can do better than him though cant u??find a real man and prove to yourself and him that u can move on

Answer 8

Take the kids and move to another city maybe state. Whatever you do watch your back, this chick sounds nuts. If you leave your ex will get what he deserves from her.

Answer 9

she see you as a treat . write her a letter . Tell her that you want nothing to do with him. And let her know that you are not stopping him from seeing his kids . Tell her if he wants to see them .you can call and ask for him, so that you don't have to talk to him and she can pick them up so you don't have to see him. or you can tell them to kiss off .and get a lawyer to fight for them

Answer 10

Cut out the cussing and just let him see the kids. I wouldn't try and set the gf straight, just let him say whatever he wants. Action will speak louder than words.