My friend Kathy and I are dating two twin brothers next week. We asked them to go to a teen back to school dance next sat at the Y. We are actually going on a triple date with another girl and shes taking a boy I kind of like named Jamie. Kathy's mom or dad is dropping us off and picking us up after the dance. Ok I told my mom that the boys are really sweet and a little dorky as most 13 yr old boys are. I told her that the only nice cloths they have are some cloths that their mom and dad make them wear when they go to church. Last time they were at the Y dance they wore them and you DONT want to know any more. Kathy and I want to help their mom get them some really cool cloths like Zake and Cody wear on the Disney Channel. My mom got really mad at me and said that it isnt appropriate for me to interfer with their family and I better not or I'm GROUNDED. She got really mad when I reminded her that it is child abuse for a child not to have good cloths.
2006-08-28 11:34:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
First of all, it is not child abuse.
Not everynody can afford to have the fashions that you may think are cool.
You may have insulted the mother by implying that their sons need to dress better if her sons want to be seen with you.
You may also want to consider that the mother and father like the clothes that they buy for their sons. Maybe the mother made the clothes.
I do think that you need to be more aware of how adults may interpret your comments to them. Your comments may not be appreciated nor will they be taken the way you may have intended.
2006-08-28 11:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by creskin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you and Kathy plan to pay the total bill for the guy's outfits? Do you know if the parents approve of Zake & Cody's clothes worn on the Disney Channel?
Honey, I'm sure you mean well but the boys' parents would definitely not appreciate your offer. Listen to you mom!
Parents have a hard enough time keeping their kids clothed without interference from their children's peers. You will understand this better when you grow up and have kids of your own.
2006-08-28 11:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well from what you told me you basically said it really harsh. the thing is you didnt only offend the boys but also the mother and the father's taste. i odnt hink its wrong to bring it up. u can say anyhting you want to a person as long as you say it right. if i were you i would have just said "hey mrs. dot-dot-dot, what if i shop with the boys for some clothes for the dance? i wanna make sure they look their best." basically u didnt say they dress dorky but rather you focused ont he positive: ull help em pick out some nice clothes for the dance. the key word is HELP, not FORCE.
its okay...we all make mistakes. ive made huge ones and have learned from em thats y i go on here to help others out. its not too late. next time, use this technique. to patch things up with your mom just say "sorry mom. i didnt mean to meddle. i jsut wanted to help. next time ill offer my services in a kinder way". there: all fixed! toodles!
2006-08-28 11:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Red Hot Chili Peppers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't abuse to not get 'cool' cloths. I don't understand why your mom got mad, tho. Maybe she thinks her budget couldn't afford any extras for someone not in the family. It is sad. Could you get/earn some money and take him/them to a thrift store for some better cloths?
You sound like a sweetheart, darling.
2006-08-28 11:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by wildbill05733 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Child abuse for not having "it" clothing.....sounds like you need a reality check....and get a job to earn your own money to pay for your clothes. What an eye opener it will be when you have to pay for it yourself.
Stay out of another family's business, especially since you will not last in his life.
2006-08-28 12:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Shanan D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It definitely is child abuse not having good clothes.
I would call like child services on my parents If they ever stop giving me "up to standards" stuff.
I would die.
Yeah, you should interfere and don't worry about getting grounded.
At least you would have helped someone.
No one should go around looking poor, even if they are.
2006-08-28 11:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Elitist, much? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WTF IT ISNT CHILD ABUSE FOR A KIDS NOT TO HAVE GOOD CLOTHES WTF YOU MADE THAT UP
YOURE KNDA RUDE
2006-08-28 11:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lyssia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋