we all make mistakes but we cant remember what we have do !!! but we remember every thing and any thing that had been done to us or resulted in even a really tiny pit of hurt ? if you can forgive can you really forget something bad happening to you ?
and dose it depends on you or the other person or both of you ?
2006-08-28 11:00:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgiveness is a good thing- if it is in your heart and innerself then do so. Forgiveness is about forgiving others, as well as ourselves. In the many journeys in life we partake, we often get angry, upset, feel we have been betrayed, our trust is shattered, but in reality we eventually get over it. We then start again and try to recement our relationships by not doing the same thing again. Forgiveness is one of the greatest things we can maintain, although hard many times.
Forget? This is a scar that will remain with us always, we learn by doing and doing by learning from others, we gain knowledge and experiance from our "stupid mistakes" and then curse ourselves for it...This however prepares us for any new things arising in our paths we walk everyday and throughout our life.
Forget? It is hard and your scars will always be with us. I am a Vietnam vet and know those feelings quite well. Try to stay in balance with ones self and try to always maintain a steady pace with other surprises in life we meet along the forks and paths in the road...:) :)
2006-08-28 11:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by tombowling49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you got the meaning of 'forgive and forget' totally right because we as humans can't really forget the pain someone had inflicted on us. The point is not to bring it up in an argument. I don't think you can deliberatly forget that something bad was done to you (unless it's really insignificant) but at least you can get over it and don't hold a grudge against someone. If a person sincerely appologized to you then there is no meaning to get pissed about it. On the other hand if they didn't, so what? Shrug them off and try not to deal with them again and remember it takes 43 muscles to frown and only 17 to smile! =)
2006-08-28 11:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by SnowLeo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you could forget something that was done to you hurtfully but you can forgive it. If you hold on to it, than you are allowing that person to continue to have a hold on you. You have to let go to live on. It's like putting a nail into wood and when you remove it the hole is still there. That's what is done to your heart when you have been betrayed, the pain may lessen in time but the feeling of what was done is still there. It doesn't mean you have to allow yourself to be hurt by that indivual again. So if you wish not to befriend that person again its okay and you don't have to forgive right away. Take all the time you need to heal, than forgive that person and than let go and let GOD do the rest.
2006-08-28 11:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by blackbery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you never forget, if it's a BIG HORRIBLE thing that happened. Like molestation or betrayal of trust or something. But you can forgive and move on.
YOu don't have to ever trust that person who hurt you again. Trust and forgiveness are two separate things. YOu dont even have to like the person anymore. B
The answer is no.. ..We were not designed to forget the Biggies.
2006-08-28 11:09:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is sweet bit I purely forgive and sick in no way act a similar round them my mom used to hit ne even as i became 3 and that i don't believe her I do something behind her back so I purely forgive yet I also ignore!
2016-12-05 20:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time and willingness on both sides for it to work properly. Sometimes it takes something outside of the situation to bring you back together. (ie; an illness, birth, something that makes us realize that life is bigger than our problems.) It takes some time to let wounds heal as well. But as i have learned over the years that friends and family are what make this life worth living. So i guess you just have to look at the bigger picture!
2006-08-28 11:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by angel007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Question,
It has been my experience that many times things are said and done with one intent and taken with another. It seems to me if one attempts to treat others with sincerety and honesty and with respect of what they are about. Then it is rare that you will find yourself in a situation where you have offended or are being offended. It's all inthe way one percieves something. You can only hurt if you allow to be... keep things unemotional and look at them from a logical way.
2006-08-28 11:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by hidyho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll forgive them but I will never forget what happened.
2006-08-28 11:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by justagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgive, but will never forget - this way I won't let history repeat itself.
2006-08-28 11:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive , yes.. (on the condition that the act will not be repeated on purpose)
forget? NO!
2006-08-28 11:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Roland 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋