terminating parental rights of father?

Question

i have been deemed the biological parent of my vhild and i have even filed so the papers so that i will have to pay child support. because my ex is not letting me see the baby, she did not let my name go on the birth certificate and now after we have established how much child support i have to pay she even filed a restriction order claiming that i abused her while she was pregnant. i have tried everything that i possibly could to try and be with my baby but my ex is not letting me by the way the baby is 4 months, anyway i want to know how can i terminate my rights, my child support and anything else with the baby because at this point it will be better for the baby if she is strictly raised by her mother because this drama will only hurt her more in the longer run, im 20 years old and this is a sad situation. please help

Answer 1

I would not terminate your parental rights for a couple of reasons. One, depending where you are located, terminating your rights does not always mean child support will be eliminated. Two, when the child gets older, believe me she WILL want to know about her father. Parents can only bad mouth another for so long until the child wants to know for themselves. Lastly, though it might appear to be a good idea to terminate, it will haunt you years and nights to come, especially if you have the empathy you do regarding the mother 's drama and unstable character effecting your daughter. One of the best things you could do, even if it's in the background, is to be there for her to catch her if she falls. That will be something both of you will be remember, be comforted by as well as drawn to.

Legally, if you have the biological proof, you have paternal rights. Regardless of what she has filed against you. They have seen everything in the legal system and as sad as it is have a complacent attitude. To them although embarrasing to you is quite boring to them. You will need an attorney though for filing. If money is an issue and you have Prairie State Legal in your area, you can at the very least go in for an interview. Do not be discouraged if they present an aloof nature. They get several complaints. Your income must meet certain conditions. Hit "0" and you'll get right through. Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all, I'm sorry that you are going through this. It seems like you are trying to make a difficult situation right. Now as the father you do have certain rights especially if you are paying child support rather you abuse the mother or not. You can try to terminate rights but the mother would have to be in agreement with this and she's probably not going to go for it since you are paying support. Go get some sound legal advice. You can get a court order or something to demand that she let you see your baby. It will not be better for the child if you terminate your right because she will always feel like you abandon her and then she will have to believe what ever negative things her mother has to say about you. And believe that will not be good. So see a lawyer right away. Try to get this solve before she turns one. Good luck.

Answer 3

It will not be better for the baby in the long run. My sister just found out her father whom she had only known until she was about 4 passed away ten years ago, she is now 33. She had no closure and only a step dad. That dosen't mean she had it better and why would you want the mother that is giving all this drama to have custody of the child. Fight for what you are, a father. How dare you give up that easy. You made the baby... you can't just walk away.

Answer 4

well she cant stop you from seeing you re daughter. I was told that even if my son dad didn't pay child support I still had to let him see him. You might need to take her to court but she cant stop you from seeing you re kid and if she doesn't have any proof that you abused her while she was pregnant then there is no way she can use that against you. There are lawyers on line that are for dads. I think its called Adam you should look it up. Dint just give up if the girl would rather make up that you hit her than let you be a part of you re child's life then she is crazy and unfit and you need to fight her on this. My sons dad doesn't want to see my son I am glad of that because legally I cant stop him. Good luck!

Answer 5

Please as a parent myself.....do not give up on your child...all it's going to do is give the mother the benefit of the doubt because if you do that she can use it to say "see I told you he's a bad father"...you have just as much rights as she does so I suggest taking her to court and fighting her for custody...there are a lot of options as far as getting free help from attorneys and court facilitators...maybe at the end you will be glad you did so...she is wrong for not putting your name on the birth certificate and not letting you be a part of your child's life...after all it takes two to make a baby...just do it for your baby's sake...

Answer 6

1. Find an attorney or lawyer specialized in Family Law right away. You will need to pay a chunk of $$$ but this is better in the long run.

2. Be prepared to present your case on court; you'll most likely undergo a custody battle.

3. Negotiate with your ex for a solution, and use strongly worded conversation to "pressure" her. Do NOT threaten, harrass, or force. That will be digging a hole for yourself.

For further help, visit http://www.lawyers.com for some free Law Consultation.

Kindest regards.

Answer 7

You can terminate your rights but will you be able to deal with doing all of this and in some states you will still hace to pay cs if a cs order has been done already are you sure the child is yours and why doesnt she want the baby to get to know you if you are her father talk w/ an experienced attorney.

Answer 8

You need to contact a lawyer. You have rights just as much as the mother does. Get a paternity test done and if the baby is in fact yours, your lawyer and the judge will have to give you visitation rights weather the mother likes them or not! If you do however chose not to be in this babies life there are papers you can sign your rights off.

Answer 9

You don't want to terminate your rights...because when your child is grown she may want you in her life..Do not give your wife that much power ...Stay in your daughters life you don't need to prove anything to your ex , just to your daughter..Be there for her.Every child needs there father and you will see this but don't give up your rights to her
Your wife needs to know that you are just as much a part of the childs life as you are and SHE needs to stop with all the drama and think about the happiness of your child

Answer 10

first of all you don't want to do that, secondly, child support will not stop untill the child is 18 or out of school, as for the *****, get another lawyer and document everything so when you get back to court you can show you are trying and she is hindering and go for full custody, you won't get it, but you will get joint custody, and then she can't make a move unless you both agree and the same goes for you on the raising of your child