How do I move on from my past?

Question

well I went high school for 5 years and got teased alot, and it was a very bad school, and no kind of good behaviour at all, very bad kids, it was just terrible, and and even after 5 years I cannot forget it, I want to forget it so bad , its made me a very tough person, but how do I forget the past I've even been college and thats been great, but high still for some reason makes me feel sad, like that part of my life I went through, kids used to tease my shoes, my nose, it was bad, how do I get through such pain , i feel like again i be teased I wish someone could help how do I let go and move on

Answer 1

BY remembering this too shall pass !

Answer 2

First of all, how old are you now? I'm guessing that you are in your early twenties ...

Here's the thing - the perspective. The high school lark was during the transformation from childhood to adulthood, and in many ways the treatment you got has kept you a child, and you are feeling the child's pain. HOWEVER, :-) if you are in your early twenties, as I am assuming you are, you are no longer a child. Therefore you no longer need to let this affect you.

Here's one thing you can do. Every night, do a visualisation: in your mind, build a wall between you and that school (as a symbol for what you went through). In that wall, put a gate. The people who gave you grief are on the other side of the wall, simply close the gate on them and turn away to your future. You can lock the gate if you wish.

It will always be part of your mental landscape, but you don't need to let it affect you so much emotionally. Bear in mind that there will be other experiences in the future, some good, some bad, and they will find a place between you and the school wall/gate. All part of growing up!

I really hope this helps. Keep well.

Answer 3

The same way everyone moves on from their past, by looking forward. I went through the same sort of thing, and the way I've moved on was to always have something to look forward to, like a goal, or a special treat. For a while it was moving to L.A., then I did, then it was getting a job, then I did. Right now things are at a lull, so I'm planning a vacation. Always have a long term and a short term goal that makes you happy. Even if you end up reprioritizing later, at least it's a dream to reach for now. Hope that helps!

Answer 4

You know Sal, your probably the only person that does remember the teasing, those bullies won't, simply because they have moved onto another person who's life they are making miserable now, those sort of people just go through life been downright bullies and as the years go by they wouldn't know one of their victims if they bit them on the bum, there just emotional vampires who don't deserve your thoughts, the best thing you can do is to move on from it as hard as it was, by keeping it with you, your allowing yourself to be one of their victims, don't give them that benefit, you always have and always will be a much better person than they could ever be, I'm not a big religious person, but I always hold with this saying 'God doesn't pay back in coins' and believe you me, he most certainly will not pay any bully back that way, they will get their comeuppance and when they least expect it, you have the consolation of knowing that, unfortunately they don't, nice to have something on the bullies that they don't realise isn't it, as hard as it is, just move away from those times in your life and be proud of yourself for been the lovely, caring person you are and always will be, good luck.

Answer 5

I would suggest you seek advice and contact with a counsellor via your GP, it would help simply to have someone to talk this stuff over with, surprising how its helps, give it a go! Bullying is a terrible thing to go through, and it leaves scars, bear in mind that a lot of beautiful girls were ugly ducklings, bullied at school for some weird reason? Do not let it ruin any more of your life, move on, get help - Good luck!

Answer 6

I hated high school too - a bunch of mean stuck up kids.

Try these two books - they might help alot:
The Feeling Good Handbook - by David D. Burns MD.
Reinventing Yourself: How To Become The Person You've Always Wanted To Be - by Steve Chandler

You can get them at your local city library if you don't have the dough. "Reinventing Yourself" is also on audio cassette if you would rather listen.

Answer 7

Find those that teased you and kick the crap out of them. (Only joking!) Moving on is hard, but dwelling on what's past only makes it harder. Try to keep busy with positive things and be aware when you start to get stuck with your thoughts and change them. It will become easier in time. You can bet those who teased you aren't thinking about you, so why waste time and your life thinking about them? Good luck!

Answer 8

concentrate on planing your future put all your thoughts on what you want to do, this way you have no time for thinking about the the past and about the losers you went to school with who will probably be locked up or on the streets by now and in a few years when your walking down the street you will be throwing your spare change at them.

Answer 9

i think of you made the splendid determination besides. If he cared something in any respect approximately what he had with you, while he finalized his divorce he might have come to you. particularly he appears like the impatient style - considering you weren't prepared to play 2nd play around he discovered somebody who grew to become into. or maybe he basically does not like being on my own. Did he truly spend time by using himself, substantial time, till now he jumped off and married this different woman? i think of you probably did genuine, heavily, because of the fact even if if he had divorced his spouse and married you, you will possibly desire to be careful of the rebound syndrome curiously something his new spouse did no longer look at. to flow previous the remorseful approximately will take time. it additionally will take acknowledging that in case you weren't solid sufficient for him to come back back for you as quickly as he tied up his loose strings, then you definately have been too solid for him interior the 1st place. you additionally can say that at the same time as your intentions have been solid, you have been nonetheless in touch with a married guy....take it as a lesson found out. Karma cares no longer approximately your intentions basically your movements.

Answer 10

Everything in life must be either accepted or changed, what cannot be accepted must be changed, and what cannot be changed must be accepted. Accept the fact that mean people suck and they were jerks. Try to consciously move your thoughts to remember the good things you have experienced- don't continue to encourage these bad thoughts in yourself, fight them by remembering other things. If you have one foot in the past and one in the future, you are pissing on your present. Think happy thoughts.

Answer 11

Live in the here and now and don't dwell in the past, believe me its not wortj it, we've all got horrors in out pasts, some worse than others, you need to move on, otherwise you'll be uhappy with life forever and what would be the point in that?