Is it possible to have a friends with benifits relationship without feeling getting involved?

Question

I met a really nice female and began to hang out with her. She and I were just recently out of a relationship with other people and were'nt looking to establish another one any time soon. So she and I became intimate with the understanding that its just an intimate friendship not a relationship. Months down the road she started acting funny when I talked on my phone with other people or if I just wasnt in the mood to hang out with her. She even started making certain committs about her feelings for me. I asked if she had caught feelings for me and if so we had agreed that we were only friends. I felt like I needed to back off from her so that things could cool off. When I told her this she became angry and we are no longer friends. Was I wrong for backing off and ruining our friendshp as well?

Answer 1

It is both possible and impossible to have a relationship without feelings getting involved.

I once knew a man I was madly head over heels for despite the fact he told me we were just going to be friends. I was fortunate enough to have him be out of the state for several months, and after some hard hits to my emotional core I finally got to the point where I knew we were just friends.

Then again, you have to consider what exactly intimate does to a woman. Despite all efforts it is very difficult to not become emotionally attached. Intimacy is just that to a woman, intimate. We cannot easily detach emotional feelings from physical feelings. There is a point where lust becomes love. If that point isn't found then your friendship likely wouldn't have bloomed. It would have more likely become a "booty call."

Were you wrong for backing off?

I think the question you have to ask yourself is: What would have happened if you had continued to lead her on until the point where you found someone else?

I don't think you were wrong, but that is just my opinion. In the end the remaining friends becomes a two sided thing. If she doesn't want to remain friends with you then it is practically impossible for you to remain friends with her.

Answer 2

Usually someone starts to have feelings at one point or another. Once that happens things will change. I have always been able to not fall in love but that's because I choose men I know I wont fall in love with as my friends with benefits. I do have the same problem with them though. They do start getting jealous.

Answer 3

Now, you know you can't stop someone from having feelings for you. I know the friends with benefits sounds inviting but it usually leads to one person developing feelings. It just can't be help. So the best thing is never to have a friend with benefits. Just be friends.

Answer 4

Totally impossible, Human behavoir doesnt allow it