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Last night I didn't get off work until midnight and my fiance had to be at work at 8:00am, so I told him I would get a ride home (my car is in the shop) so he could get in as much sleep is possible. My ride hm was a co-worker I used to date, but now we are JUST FRIENDS. I have introduced them and everything and all it was, was a ride home. What do you think?

2006-08-28 10:47:28 · 19 answers · asked by vernise2679 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

I really don't see a problem with it at all.

2006-08-28 10:51:14 · update #1

19 answers

HHmmm..... if you're being honest, then it sounds like you are in the clear, no harm done.
BUT here's the thing--- you need to mention to your fiance that you got a ride home from this guy. Mention it casually, like you are assuming it wouldn't bother him-- something like "OH, so and so gave me a ride home last night, I just wanted to let you know." Act casual, and if he gets upset by it, accept his feelings, and tell him you won;t accept rides from your ex again. It would be understandable if this bothered him, and he will soon be your husband.
Honesty!! It's the best!!
Good luck, and congratulations on your marraige plans!!

2006-08-28 10:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by smarty 2 · 1 0

Unfortunately, yes. Men and women alike tend to be very jealous. If he didn't love you, he wouldn't get upset or worried. You might want to think about how you would feel if he caught a ride home from a co-worker he was involved with. You would be at home asleep with no idea of what time he left work, how long he was alone with her, etc. It's okay to assure someone you are JUST FRIENDS, but there was something that attracted you to him and him to you. You may love your fiance with all of you heart, but you can't change how he feels. Be sensitive to his ego and reassure him when you can. Maybe you should have gotten a ride from a different co-worker?

2006-08-28 17:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Whitney B 2 · 1 0

You wasn't wrong, it was kind of you to think about your fiance and allow him to get the most sleep he could possibly get. If you got a ride home from a co-worker or a co-worker you used to date its still the same you got a ride home from a friend. You're not wrong to do that, lots of people do. Regardless if he was your ex or not there was no sexual relations or attempt of sex made, he strickly just helped you in your time of need and gave you a ride. Nothing more. And nothing to worry about.

2006-08-28 17:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Lips of Morphine ♥ 4 · 1 0

It may seem perfectly fine, but what really matters here is how it makes him feel. In a relationship you will not always agree on different issues, but you do have to respect one anothers feelings. Apologize, explain you did not know that it would upset him and make it clear you will not ride with ex boyfriends again in the future. Their is no wrong or right in a situation like this, it is just an issue that the two of you must discuss.

2006-08-28 17:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1 0

i think u r not wrong and why should u be if ur fiance trusts u enough he would know that nothing will go wrong. but on the other hand put urself in his shoes if he got a ride from an ex-girlfriend and they r still friends how would u feel? he might have just been a little worried about u .

2006-08-28 18:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by summer_510 2 · 1 0

C'mon now. Really how would you feel if your fiance got a lift from his ex, even though they are still friends. First, being friends with an ex is WAY wrong especially if you used to date him and were sexual with him. you're really lucky that your fiance was OK when you introduced your ex and him...but getting a ride homw with him is like rubbing it in his face! There wasn't ANYONE else to give you a ride home???? geez...couldnt you have taken public transport???

Personally, if my fiance was in contact with his ex...id BE PISSED. Im sure you'd feel the same. Dont press your luck...you never know when it may end.

2006-08-28 17:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by nat04 3 · 0 1

A ride home is fine, unless dated means lived with. Then I'd suggest waking the boyfriend next time.

2006-08-28 18:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Depends on how your fiance feels. If you knew that he would not like you getting a ride from your ex, it was wrong. If you think that he would be okay with it, it wasn't wrong.

2006-08-28 19:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by nervous wreck 1 · 1 0

If you are sure the coworker knew it was just a ride home and nothing else, then it should have been OK.

2006-08-28 17:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1 0

There's nothing wrong with it. Screw all these knuckleheads that think it was wrong. You didn't screw him right? Didn't have any sexual or physical contact right? So no....you didn't do anything wrong. You maintained control all the time and you saved your boyfriend from having to go out and pick you up.

2006-08-28 17:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1 0

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