Do they not remember the vows they took? And it was to God, if they believe in God, then they must know they will pay for it....and if they don't believe, then they will find out they should have....
2006-08-28 10:39:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree. Marriage is way more precious and sacred then most people realize.
2006-08-28 10:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
People ask strangers because they want an unbiased opinion. Friends don't always point out the things we need to consider.
You are right about the cheating. They should never do that because of the vow they took. However, the cheating happens. Maybe the innocent person cannot take the cheating spouse any more. Maybe one of the people is being abused. We don't know all of the details.
There are two cases where divorce is condoned in the Bible. The first is in the case of abuse. A wife is encouraged to leave her husband because to the abuse. Divorce is not considered a sin in that case. The second is if the partners are "unequally yoked" which is generally accepted to mean that one person is abiding by God's will and the other is not. In that case the person who is not sinning is told to leave the marriage and find another believer to marry.
2006-08-28 10:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you that cheating is a sin. You made vows before God and your family.
But the reason I think people come on here and ask total strangers about these things is to get a fresh prospective on the situation. Maybe they are looking for justification or someone to be on their side.
Whatever the reason, it still all boils down to the same thing. Being a cheater is one of the worst human beings on earth.
As for divorce I know it is not right in the eyes of God but I can not believe that he will hold you accountable if the divorce was for a valid reason. Such as your spouse being a cheater or an abuser.
2006-08-28 15:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Vows are suppose to be sacred, however sometimes people change not for the better or don't really think in terms of ( Can I really stay married to this person and be faithful til death due us part)? And sometimes people marry because of being pregnant or having had a child and there's really nothing else there. Those people regretfully shouldn't have married to begin with,but you can't make them believe it until it's too late.
2006-08-28 10:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by red dragon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometimes it's nice to get a stranger's point of view on things...
as when you husband cheats on you etc.. it's very hard.. and your mind might say .. dump the jerk he's not work it (or vice versa if it's your wife)...
you put in doubt a lot of things in your own life and your judgment.. so having strangers confirm what you are thinking often helps.....
like me for example.. I still wonder why my husband preferred to sleep with a 15 year old.. be convicted and go to jail.. than 1) staying with our family with he said was the greatest thing he ever had or 2) leaving me and be there for both his sons... he doesn't have an answer except .. he wanted to piss off the mom's girl.. and I got great answers to that.. answers that just confirmed what I am thinking.. but unfortunately my heart is involved and when the heart is involved the mind is not as clear as when you speak to a stranger .. their heart is not involved in a person's story...
if someone that cheats asks for advice.. well they just want someone to say "go for it .. do it again".. and obviously in this world at least one person is going to say that.. since so many people are cheating.. both women and men... - even if most people say they are moron and idiots... if one says.. you did ok .. do it again.. it's just what they need...
does this make sense ?! hahahaha
2006-08-28 10:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Many heads better than 1 or fewer ...
I don't want and don't believe in vow or promiss. Only your heart, your head, your personality and yourself, the way you live and see life that count. Many people vow, promiss ... then forget or change, or break ... and life is not that simple and easy like many other people think when they vow, promiss ...
Marriage is also a social custome, does not mean or warrant almost anything when your heart changes the feeling for each other because of one reason or other, or when you don't care ecough, don't respect each other, be selfish yourself ... It does work on legal issues though...
Many people cheat on their own happiness thinking they are obliged to their marriage, because society told them that marriage is sacred, they bought it, and waste their own prescious life sufferring, making it meaningless in order keep that title. Many other say marriage is sacred while cheating on spouse (even if they have "right" reason to cheat, but what does "sacred" mean here ?)
2006-08-28 11:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Amen Kevin. You are a wise man.
Most of these folks are seeking some sort of confirmation for their behavior. It's really sad to see how many people do not have any respect for the institution of marriage.
People can be completely ignorant buttholes about both marriage and God.
drsteve is CLUELESS.
2006-08-28 10:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They need other people's opinions to have a solid base to their decisions. We all need help at some point and if it comes from a stranger, so be it. We are not all bad people and we can all teach eachother a thing or two even if we have never met.
2006-08-28 10:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
May I point out that this forum is for entertainment, among other things. I don't think anyone takes it *too* seriously. Besides, it's interesting to hear different people's perspectives sometimes. If only everything was clear-cut and simple - but it's not. Such is life; god has nothing to do with any of that.
2006-08-28 10:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
They ask strangers because they will never see them again. There is no weight of judgement and by that time they have probably held a lot in and need to vent.
2006-08-28 10:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People ask those questions probably because they want an unbiased opinion or an opinion from someone who they don't know. People ask the questions on here because they are anonymous and no one will find out that they are cheaters or thinking of ending their marriages.
2006-08-28 10:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋