av yet to meet a lesbian who would use a dental dam, or use a condom on a sex toy. why are we so prissy about lesbian safe sex? the lads have to do it, so shouldn't we?
mind, my memory isn't that good these days....
2006-08-28 10:39:50 · 20 answers · asked by swot 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I already see a lot of good answers posted before mine. some excellent asnwers actually.
In part, I hear from a lot of my lesbian friends that dental dams would have been better named as "too damn smalls" or "too damn thicks" they have a reputation for dulling sensations as well as being a hassle to keep in place due to their inadequate size. i once heard someone saying they wanted to develope a helmet with a face section that could hold a dental damn and keep it from slipping *chuckles*
I would also like to call the media into account. When one watches a movie about sex, at least in the US, more often than not scenes of safer sex practices are not included in the script. not that there are never safer sex scenes because there are.. As far as lesbian themed movies i've watched (and yes, i've seen quite a few) i have witnessed zero scenes of safer sex practices.
somebody mentioned cucumbers. i would like to say, if you are going to use a cucumber, use a condum. cucumbers have pesticides that can affect a body's ph level and cause infections or worse.
Condoms on toys are very good thinking. many toys are made of silicon which has pourous (sp?) surfaces that germs and bacteria can hide in even when toy washing occurs.
As for STD's, lesbians, or women who sleep with women, are indeed the lowest risk for STD's however, women in general are at high risk because their bodies create an ideal incubation spaces for all sorts of STD's. Even some lesbians have had intercourse with males and may contract something. 95% of all cervical cancer is actually a form of HPV that remains nearly undetectable until cancer cells appear. these 95% of cases happen because males do not show signs of this type of HPV as far as i know, and once their bodies contract if from a female, they can spread it to every (or some) female(s) they have unprotected sex with after that.
Also, Herpes (cold sores, fever blisters, etc) are on the rise. a few years ago i heard that there were more than 20,000 new outbreaks a year in the US alone. mind you, these numbers have most likely changed but who knows which direction, up or down, they changed in.
The good news is, I do know lesbians who practice safer sex. And i know that they have good communication skills with their partner(s) in that they talk about their bodies, sex, and health with one another. Talking about bodies, sex, and health is a very healthy thing to do and can help create an atmosphere where one feels safe and welcome to talk about and suggest safer sex practices.
2006-08-28 11:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Generally lesbians are indeed the lowest sexual risk group, but this doesn't keep us completely safe. Anytime bodily fluids are exchanged there is a certain level of risk involved.
I don't know why more lesbians aren't engaging in safe sex practices. Those I've known usually have. Most lesbian sexual predators that I've known all practice safe sex. But lesbian sexual predators is a very small group. Most lesbians don't see themselves as predators.
Now, I'm not talking about the kind of predator that means criminally predatory, but more so the aggressive types who are more concerned about how much sex they can get, rather than those who are preoccupied with finding a mate, a long-term relationship.
2006-08-28 10:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You are right, I haven't met a lesbian yet who follows safer sex practices... and I have to admit that I have been guilty of it in the past myself. (I have been in a committed monogamous relationship now for over 8 years, so I guess all our sex is safe!)
I believe the reason for that is because of the much lower incidence of STDs in the lesbian community, along with the lower rates of transmission, as compared with STD infection and transmission rates in the gay and heterosexual communities.
That doesn't make it right or smart, but I think that may be the truth of the matter.
2006-08-28 10:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I usually have a check up at least once a year to be safe.
As for using dental dams, their not exactly user friendly or nice to taste. I have tried but I don't like them.
Condoms are much more easier to use on toys and (sorry to say it) make them easier to clean.
I don't think it's about us being "prissy" I just think its ease, and half the fun is the taste, texure, smell..........all of which is lost if you've got a piece of cling film covering you face and any way that you can breathe safely!
2006-08-29 01:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Carly 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm not shy of safe sex. I just got my wife checked before we ever had sex. So since we're clean, we don't need to practice safe sex.
2006-08-28 13:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well guys have to have safe sex because the HIV transmission between males is really really easy. For women, there has never been a confirmed case of female to female sexual transmission of HIV.
Plus dental dams don't do jack against HPV (gen warts) or herpes.
So it is largely unnecessary to do it, and largely ineffective when they do.
2006-08-28 12:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is no verified case of a lesbian getting aids or any other std from another lesbian. The only one I know of is herpes. We do not exchange bodily fluids sexually, so I guess women feel safe and don't want to be bothered.
2006-08-28 11:12:52 · answer #7 · answered by irongrama 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I'm shy of sex, period. I did a lot of dumb things, when I thought I was straight, and thankfully, the only thing that happened was that I got pregnant. Now, I know better. I've been celibate since the start of this year, and I have no plans to break it any time soon. I'm waiting a long, long time before I trust somebody enough to make love to her, and since I'm not seeing anyone right now, it'll be a long, long, loooong time before I trust somebody that much, anyway.
2006-08-28 10:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Cold sores are caused by the herpes virus. Many of us already have the cold sore virus dormant in our bodies, and never have a flare up of cold sores. We contracted it as children, as it is a very common virus, and children pick it up easily as they often share food and drinks, and may be less concerned about hand washing and hygiene. Cold sores can be transmitted even when the person does not have a cold sore, though it is less likely to happen then.
remember that you can remove genital warts by surgery, freezing, laser, acid or cream but genital warts can reappear again and again because genital warts appears when your immune system is weak!
I got diagnosed with herpes type 2 about seven years ago, when I was still in college and had a stupid one-night stand. However, Not only was I able to remove all traces of the herpes virus from my system in less than three weeks, but I was also able to start dating again!
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2015-02-04 10:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my name is CJ. Now you have been introduced to a lesbian who believes in safe sex!
2006-08-28 14:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by cj 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋