My faith in God is stronger than ever but my parents wont step a foot in church! Im the oldest girl with 3 younger brothers. both parents work and they stopped communicating with each other cuz they arrive home tired. we have this empty space between and everyone has their own little thing to do. mom hates dad cuz all he does is cuss at her. she doesnt feel love and shes been talking about divorcing him. he doesnt seem to try to work the situation. im just lost. im only 18 what can i do?
2006-08-28 10:33:01 · 10 answers · asked by Khat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God bless you for trying, sweetie, but there is nothing you can do to keep them from divorcing. You can be a support to each parent but try not to become your mother's "counselor" or best friend. That won't help you or her. I think if you concentrate on yourself right now, being a good person and an independent person, the best you can do is pray for them and pray that God's will be done. Perhaps after seeing how emotionally healthy you are, one or both of your parents will turn to you for strength or guidance. If they do, the best thing you can do then is encourage them to see a counselor or, if they soften to the idea later, to see a pastor for help.
This sounds selfish and awful but try to separate yourself as soon as you can - get your own place when/if you go to college or soon afterwards. Don't get enmeshed in their conflict. Just keep them in your prayers and be there to support your brothers as a good example and a source of advice.
I will pray for you all too. Email me if you'd like.
2006-08-28 10:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you probably hate to admitt it you can't change thier feelings but I sue no GOD can! So pray. Talk to your pastor about getting your parents to church. You my not know this now but your parents splitting may be the best thing for them and for you an your brothers. you may have more peace when you see them and they may appear happier. It may seem bad at 1st but you'll warm up to the idea. God Bless You and Good Luck! I hope I helped you. And don't forget prayer is power!
2006-08-28 17:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by ♥live laugh love ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know you feel really bad ! If your dad really Luv you her will cahnge for the happiness of your family and also is your mom ! tell them to work less ! insteed of 10hrs of work only take 7/8 tke there weekend of oh maybe you guys dhould have a family vacaytion ! they will change for you and your bros !!!!!!!! they love you! pray God to bless them and your family !
GOOD LUCK! people may said your young and all that ! but come on it your family!!!! even if your 10 so what u coukd do some think to change OH you could cook themm some thing a super on a special night !!or any night make them a present from all of your bro and u
tell them to open then self the apreciate it a thanks god for a family ! talk to them
2006-08-28 17:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by KC N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Be supportive to both. It's their problem, not yours and nothing you can do will change that. Even if you do manage to "hold them together", as soon as you leave, it'll be over. Let them be. Try to get your father to understand cussing is not the right way to handle any relationship (whether you want to stay married or not).
2006-08-28 17:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it really isn't your place to get involved. Maybe you could take your mom out for lunch and tell her how you feel. Seek advise from a counselor in your church on giving your mom advise and whether you should even give advise.
2006-08-28 17:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Latina Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not arrange for them to go away for a weekend...Being alone together may rekindle the love and passion that used to be there..Everyone needs to get away every now and then
2006-08-28 18:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't they are adult's and your about to be an adult.They've done there part with you now allow them to do what makes them happy.And in the mean time get yourself ready to live your own happy fullfilled life!!
2006-08-28 17:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by endigogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom and dad need to sit down and make time for themselves before it's too late...
they need to talk.. even tired... they could lay down in bed.. and just cuddle up and talk for 1/2 before going to sleep...
2006-08-28 17:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't they are grow people who make their own decisions try to be supportive and remember its not your fault
2006-08-28 17:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Why are you still here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't.......it is a shame, but you were not the cause, so you can't make it all better......I am sorry
2006-08-28 17:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋