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2006-08-28 10:29:44 · 6 answers · asked by lishaginn2004 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
When most people ask for casual advice, they are not really looking for direction. More often, they seek confirmation or validation for their decisions. And, don't forget, validation can occur in a negative sense.
Example, they anticpate a difficult confrontation with someone else. They KNOW they must, but may be concerned that they are stressing more than is called for. A good friend may advise them that it isn't worth the grief, don't do it, put it off, etc. Advice like this serves to confirm the difficult of the situation, but they will have to do what they feel is the right thing.
As far as what you do, don't forget to support your friend's decision. You may still voice your concern, but it's only right that you tell your friend that it IS their choice. This person is, after all, a friend.
Unless they are making a life or death choice, it shouldn't worry you what they decide. Just be a friend.
2006-08-28 10:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Vince M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a coworker who thinks that I ask her for advice and then don't take it. In reality, I've only asked her advice once and did take it. The problem is, she regularly gives me unsolicited advice that I may or may not take. She has accused me many times of not taking her advice after I've asked, but it's just not true. So, make sure you're not giving unsolicited advice. Otherwise, some people ask for advice just to get a different perspective on a situation before they make a decision.
2006-08-28 17:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Skatermomof5 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont try to steer her life. She'll take it the way she wants to anyways. And remember its her life and she is human and not a puppet.
Next time she asks for it, you ask her what she thinks she should do. Dont give her an answer just ask her questions.
2006-08-28 17:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by caughtin2minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that. I've known her long enough to know that she usually just wants somebody to vent to more than anything. I usually just tell her to follow her own heart or instincts if she actually asks me what she should do.
Don't take it personally though.
2006-08-28 17:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by giving the wrong answers to her questions of advice, not anything harmful, but of a dumb blonde duh! type. If she follows this line, look for another friend.
2006-08-28 17:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop wasting your time giving it.
2006-08-28 17:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by bigrob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋