Is 19 too young to get married?

Question

My boyfriend is 23 and recently graduated from college. I'm a second semester sophomore. I will be 19 in January. He wants to get engaged this Fall and married this upcoming Summer. I love him very much and I know we can make it work. I still have a year and a half of undergrad work, plus 4 years of Pharmacy school. I don't want to wait until I graduate to get married. However, I am more hesitant to get married now due to my parents, who have been married 22 years, splitting up this past summer. I'm ready to move on with my life, I don't act like I'm 18/19. What should I say/do?

Answer 1

My husband and I were both 19 when we got married, neither one of us graduated college. I have now been married for 6 years and we have a very strong marriage but did go through some rough spots like all people. I would just caution you to make sure you are ready to be married, not just because you want to live with the person or whatever. You must be compromising, loving, understanding, patient and the list goes on and on. You can make it work if you are both willing to sacrifice things for eachother. Good luck.

Answer 2

it is not to young .18 and older is old enough. If you have to ask you may not be ready though. If you are ready you will know. You can not go by other married people.
You need to know how well can work together. Here are things to look at before the big day.
1) how many kids do you want and when do you want them
2) how do you want to raise the kids for example.
Regular or private school
what church if any will they attend
how will you disapline them
You must agree on rules and always follow them both of you
Medical insurance who will cover this you or him
3) where do you two want to live. If one wants a warm state and the other wants a cold state there could be problems( trust me)
4) do you want to live in town/city or in the country and comute to work
5) do you have things you both love doing together and things you love to do with friends without the other.
These are things that can help you figure out if both of you are ready
6) oh yes and talk about budgetting together. That is a big problem with marriages that cause loads of divorces. People are not good at living within there means . Bills first and pleasures second. You two must figure out how to have a joint account and each of you having your own account also.

Answer 3

Is 19 too young to get married? That's a tough question that really depends on you. I've been married for 18 years, and it was very rough. We had 2 kids right away. We didn't have college or pharmacy school to go to or to think about. If you have kids your priorities will probably change so you can take care of your child, and this would postpone your schooling. You have all of your life.

You have to do what's right for you. Life is too short to second guess yourself.

I was 21 & he was 26 when we got married. It was tough, very tough.

Answer 4

No one who's 18/19 thinks they act like they're 18/19.

Anyway, the point is if you truly are in love, and want to get married there is nothing wrong with waiting. In the long run, a divorce is always a mess that makes a person realize marriage is not to be taken lightly.

Answer 5

YES!!!! The current divorce rate is 50% and for those getting married before 25 is 75%. Why rush? If he's 'the one', then you both should be able to wait until you finish school, at least. Neither of you have grown up. Being a student is nothing like real life. Even though it sounds great, please hesitate. If he's right, then it won't matter in the long run.

Answer 6

i don't know.

The 2 critical parts ( I think) are, how mature are you now and how much are you going to change in the next few years ? Most people change a lot between 19 and 25. and that's OK.

If i had married at 19, i would have been divorced by 21.

Answer 7

If your schooloing is important to you, than tell your fiancee that you would like to wait until you graduate w/ a degree at the very least. It would be better if he could wait until you finished pharmacy school. Your parents' breakup has nothing to do with you getting married right now, but should serve as a precaution that you need better timing. I married at 19 and her at 21, it was hard, harder in fact that I stopped going to school to assist her with finishing college 1st. Your age has nothing to do with your decision, but your maturity should tell you that you need to focus on reaching YOUR goals and noone elses.

Answer 8

He is ready for it. You are ready for it. You said that you didn't act 18/19. I don't see a problem. Just ask for some more time, if you feel that your education is at stake. Cause education is important. You can't stress that enough.

Just because your parents' marriage did not last, doesn't mean yours won't. There's no reason for that. It is normal to get paranoid but, nothing you can't work at. Learn from their mistakes, see where it went wrong, and you can work to make it right.

Answer 9

19 is WAY TOO YOUNG to get married!!!!

If it's true love, why not wait? True love knows to wait. Unless you are both horny christians that need to get married to get laid. Even then, don't do it!!!
I went to a Bible College and it was like a plague: Senior men would marry freshmen women and she was ussually 18/19. That was ten years ago. Now when I see or hear about these women ALL of them are somehow misserable

Answer 10

Personally, I wouldn't have gotten married at that age, and I wouldn't encourage anyone else to. At 19 you think you have it all figured out...we all did....but allow yourself to grow into adulthood and learn things about yourself and who you truly are....if you are meant to marry him, 3 or 4 years down the road you will still be together and marry then. Why rush it? The divorce rate is 50%...way too high....don't chance it, especially since you are so young and have so much life ahead of you.