How do you get your baby out of your bed?

Question

My son is 6 1/2 months old and when he was 2 weeks came down with a cold that made it very hard for him to breathe and he has slept with us every since then. My husband did not want him to move into his crib but it is time we take back our bed because our son likes to take up a lot of room in the bed now. He is almost always right next to me and I can not sleep very well. I have tried to let him cry himself to sleep in his bed but that did not work. He cried for about 45 minutes and still did not sleep. As soon as I put him in our bed (just to change his diaper he was a little wet) he fell right to sleep. I need some more ways to help with the transition.

Also, his bed is in our room because we have a 2 bedroom house and have three kids now. The other two are 9 and 7. I have tried the pillow and to let him cry until the girls asked me to do something so they can go to sleep because they have school the next day. I have even put my shirt in the crib that I just took off. He only sleeps in the crib for about 2-3 hours then wakes up and won't go back to sleep.

Please only nice answers. I do not need the snotty comments that some like to leave.

Answer 1

My daughter has been doing the same thing. She has had bad ear infections and she will nto sleep in her crib. We will put her to sleep in our bed or on the couch in the livingroom and when she is asleep we move her to her crib but within an hour or so she awakes and starts screaming bloody murder. I don't know what to do either. I've tried many ways, I figure that once she gets better she will have an easier time transitioning into her crib in her room. My husband and I are gonna put her mattress in our room on the floor beside the bed tonight and see how things go from there. I will follow you up if anything works so you can try it too.

Answer 2

Move his crib next to your bed for awhile, start by putting him in his crib when you go to bed so that he can see you are right there.

If he crys, let him cry himself to sleep, sooner or later he will. You just have to outlast him.

When he gets used to sleeping in the crib then you can move the crib out of the room. You have to take it one step at a time. You can do it. It's called a form of tough love. It's tougher on you than it is on him.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I would start with a bed next to yours. I would rotate something with your scent on it each day so hes more comfortable with his bed. I would each day or every few days move the bed a little more away from yours untill hes almost out the door. Then I would try placing him in his room. You can also use his crib for brief breaks (while you shower/use the rest room) and for naps. This will get him into it during the day.

Answer 4

You have to be consistent and patient. Putting him in his crib didn't work because YOU took him out of his crib and into your bed. Yeah he cried for 45 minutes. Had you left him alone he would have cried himself to sleep. It may have taken an hour and 45 minutes but he would have slept in his own bed. If you can't be consistent and persistent then you'll never get him out of your bed. Won't that be nice when he is 18 years old?

Answer 5

Try to ease him into it. If you have a pack and play, set it up close to your bed. Set him into it for his daytime naps for a week or so. If he takes fine to that, try him in it at night. Try things that way for a week or so. Then try him in his crib during the day. If you have to stay in his room with him when you lay him down for naps for a few days, do so. Eventually, he'll probably be sleeping the night away in his own room.

Good luck!

Answer 6

tough love! begin the transition on a weekend on when you will have a couple of days without early obligations...then put him in his crib and leave him in it...no matter how much he cries!! Try putting something in his crib from your bed, a nightlight or some other sort of white noise in the room...the key is to be consistant!!

Answer 7

i put my kids in there own bed right next to mine and when they woke up crying i wd tell them they cd hold my hand till they fell back asleep then little by little we move the bed away from mine then after they were on the other side of the room we moved into the big boys room

Answer 8

When he falls asleep in your bed let him stay there to where he is fully asleep then when its been about 20-30 minutes pick him up slowly and take him to his crib soft and slowly

Answer 9

let him sleep in your bed and you can sleep in the guest bed or sleep in his room with him. I remember when I was small there was a crib and a regular bed in the room (from pictures).

Answer 10

Just let him cry. It'll take a week or two and he may cry for 2 hours every night. But that won't last forever. He's definietly old enough to cry it out.