My husband and I had a great relationship until he had to start working out a town 3 nites a week.He comes home and yells and everyone even people that never come over but rarely.Now its trickled down to me.And when I ask whats wrong about his bizaar behavoir he says he doesnt know! And I ask if he is happy here and says yes! So he apologizes and at it he goes again! I think the way he is home its not another woman.So how do you deal ????
2006-08-28 10:05:51 · 23 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are suppose to go on trip but Im exhausted by all this and I dont want to get out a town and fight.Should I cancell?I dont want to hurt him!
2006-08-28 10:27:43 · update #1
It sounds like stress from work. Try to make the home environment as peaceful as possible for him when he is there. Hopefully he will appreciate your efforts.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 10:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear tammy, I'm sorry to hear about your trouble,but am glad you seem open minded. Your are most likley correct in assuming there is no other woman involved. There could be several answers to your problem. First, I have a few questions for you? Has your husband been to the doctor for a complete physical lately? How old is he? Does the out of town drive affect (shorten) his hours of sleep? Have his eating habits etc. changed? Is this 3 nights out of town the only recent change, good or bad, your family has had lately? Did he scream and yell at people before the new job? Hate to ask you but could he be doing some kind of "keep awake" drug with new friends out of town? unfortunately there are times when the person is withdrawing from a drug that they scream and even throw things. He isn't hitting you or children is he? If so get help from your local women's crisis center NOW. I'd sincerely like to help you? sincerely, interested.
2006-08-28 17:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A very stressful job will always do it. Sometimes, we can't seperate our work and home lives especially during very stressful times. We drink, smoke, and even womanize trying to decompress from the stress, but sometimes that doesn't work. Give him a chance to take a hot shower, join him if you have to. Have the kids clean up the house, or just "give daddy some alone time before he joins the family".
2006-08-28 17:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by AllisterD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to spend some quiet time alone with your husband and really talk to him. Do you have a list of things that need to be done when he gets home? If things do need done, he may feel under stress thinking about what needs done now and what is waiting for him when he gets home when all he wants to do is spend time with you. Ask him how he feels when he's away from you? And what would he like to see when he gets home? Talk to him, find out what it is that he wants. Ask him what all does his job require him to do? He really does sound under stress and he will need you to help him through this.
2006-08-28 17:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband use to go away for weeks @ a time. He would come back and it was like he was interfering with my routine,, with the kids house etc... You get used to doing things different. Maybe when he comes home he doesn't know where he fits in anymore so by yelling he is making sure everyone knows he is there!!!
2006-08-28 17:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would suggest is to start therapy with your husband. It is definitely not another woman. He may now be getting enough rest and maybe you need some alone time. Most jobs offer marriage retreats so you could check out if his company offers them. Maybe you just need to give him a personal neck rub. Most men like that.
2006-08-28 17:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by boobface 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him. Tell him you can't take the abuse any more. It isn't anything that you are doing it is the stress. Tell him if he can't stop treating everyone around him better he should look for another job or you are out of there.
2006-08-28 17:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's either under a lot of stress at work, or in a new corprate culture where things are a lot more intense. Talk to him about his new work situation.
2006-08-28 17:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably related to stress from the work and the change in schedule and habit. See if you can't help him pinpoint what the issue is so you can work on it. Hope it goes well.
2006-08-28 17:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly another woman....seems like he's feeling guilty about something and is projecting the frustration of having to feel guilty onto you....have you asked him if there is anything up with him....if he reacts irritably there probably is something he is hiding. If there is nothing he won't mind you asking.
2006-08-28 17:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by nandisvara_ishaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋