Women always say that men are cheaters, in their nature, men are dogs, think with their penis, etc. However, I have never cheated on my wife but she did. In fact, most of the good men or the men who have been faithful have had wives were have admitted to outside relationship or have been suspected of being unfaithful. We know that many times women are faihful and continue to put up with a cheating husband. Do we all just take each other for granted? If a spouse knows that they have a person that is totally loving and faithful, are they more likely to have an affair because they don't have the threat of it being done to them. Do we all need a healthy fear that if we don't treat our spouse right, that they may stray. Should we have complete and total trust or should we only trust so much to affiar proof the marriage? In other words, maybe we should not have blind faith that our partner would never do anything. Most people can be tempted given the right place, time, situation.
2006-08-28 09:49:11 · 13 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For every man that wants to cheat there is a woman available, and vice versa.
2006-08-28 09:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely full of malarky mister! I totally disagree with you. When men cheat it's all about their own shortcomings, and has almost nothing to do with their wife! I know this for a fact, because I never, ever turned my husband down for sex, even when I was really sick, or exhausted. In fact, I was always spontaneous and inventive on places to have sex. Anywhere outdoors, while hiking, in a phone booth, along the highway at night, in a creek, under waterfalls, in the ocean with ppl all around, anywhere, anytime was great to me. Many men have other issues that lead them to cheat, like self confidence problems, abuse as a kid that went unresolved (this was my e-husband's case), going through a mid-life crisis (feeling that they are getting older and will never sleep with another woman again), or may be losing their mojo, and need to prove that they still have what it takes to get any woman they want. Last but not least, is that some men just get bored with being with the same woman year in and year out, and in a weak moment give in to temptation. They would probably return to their wife happy to be with her, but if they get caught (like my husband did), then it's all over but the crying...
2016-03-26 23:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had been completely faithful to my wife. We had a great marriage. Out of nowhere, I caught her in a lie that led me to take a look at what was really going on. When I found she was in fact cheating I was in disbelief. I guess I was taking her for granted. I never chose to cheat even with a few offers from women that I knew. I never wanted to take that chance. To this day, my wife either can't explain her actions truthfully, or doesn't know herself. Not long ago I found not only did she carry on with 1 guy, but she was seeing 2 guys, and there was a 1 time thing with another guy. To me she has serious issues that are her problem, not mine. I always treated my wife good, never ever hit her, not even after finding how many men, and who knows how many times she went with them for sex. I am still with her only because of my kids. If it wasn't for them, I would have left her with all her issues. I feel no trust, I have no respect for her, and my love for her has faded beyond hope. Divorce is going to happen in the future. I hope anyone that reads this that is thinking of having an affair, reconsider, it will ruin your relationship in seconds. There won't be much to salvage. You will wind up divorced.
2006-08-28 10:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by paulsexpress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i absolutely agree with you. women cheat just as much as men, if not more. the difference it, we are less likely to get caught. And it's not your fault when your partner strays. NEVER, EVER, take the blame for someone else's actions. EVER!!! if a person cheats on another person, it's lack of love on the cheaters part. ALWAYS!
coming from a person that cheated on an ex, i don't blame my ex for my actions. it was what it was. I didn't love him. (something about being beaten up and abused kind of killed that emotion). But the fact is, i should have left at the time, not cheated. there is no honor in that.
My husband has cheated on his ex in the past. Same as myself. However, I love my husband and would never consider cheating on him. He feels the same about me. When you love each other, you trust each other. If there is some doubt, something needs to be worked out in that relationship.
2006-08-28 09:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women generally cheat for different reasons than men do. Yes we take each other for granted. Love for men is largely about their penis, for women it is about their brain. Men cheat to get off. Women cheat because their husband starts treating them like a piece of furniture, then one day she is out in the world and someone listens when she talks..actually WANTS to hear what she has to say, tells her she is smart and beautiful and will go to great lengths to spend even a little quality time with her..like the husband did in the beginning. Men tend to quit doing all that once they have her but women don't quit needing it. You should never have 'blind' faith, that implies foolishness and complacency....and thats where the trouble starts. Basically men cheat for physical gratification, women cheat for emotional gratification.
2006-08-28 09:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
being faithful isn't what it use 2 be anymore, just as quick as temptation comes around being a YES man/woman to ur spouse, the reality of ur commitment 2 each other goes down the drown. it's like we get the short end of the stick for doing the right thing by loving them & only them!
2006-08-28 10:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you asked and you gave good examples. So what is your real point.
Cheaters are are 50/50. Why did your wife cheat? You need to ask her. Something was missing and sometimes saying your were faithful by not cheating doesn't cover everything she needed. Were you faithful to her needs?
Ask her
2006-08-28 09:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any person who cheats is an ignorant fool and they will suffer the consequences of their actions. I have been on both sides of the fence and I know what I am talking about. You just consentrate on doing what you know is the right thing to do and you will be rewarded for it.
2006-08-28 10:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
temptation is tough to fight and can catch us when we're weak....still, the thing to do should be to walk away from temtation...I wasn't always good at that, but I am very good at it now, and I married a woman I knew would be faithful
I think sometimes people don't value their relationships enough and/or take each other for granted
2006-08-28 09:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Dwight D J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because faithful men/women choose to be with unfaithful men/women.
2006-08-28 09:52:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋