I thought my best friend of 5 years and i were like sisters... we would have done anything for each other and i often spent money on her and did things for her just because i wanted to... i loved her like a sister. but somewhere along the line she changed. she started acting goth and listening to bad music, and she even blamed me for things i didn't do so that her parents wouldn't punish her. i feel so bad i did so much for her and she just wants to throw our friendship away like its nothing to her but a pebble in her shoe... i really want to be her friend again but how can i deal knowing that my "sister" would rather treat my like trash and cut me off then tell her parents the truth???
2006-08-28 09:43:53 · 23 answers · asked by ¡Sarita! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I was suprised when I saw this question becuz I too am going through something similar to this with a close friend of mine.
She has had a bf for several years now. She has dedicated herself to him no matter what.
She feels she is losing him cuz of college and other things that have been going on.
She has let this bf take away all of her friendships with other guys (cuz he is extremely jealous).
Unfortunately there isnt much you can actually do yourself except sit down face to face for a talk.
Thankfully, there is a higher power you can go to.
This is the only thing I have been able to do for my friend....and I have seen it work before.
Just go to God.....He will help you.
I Promise.
if you want to talk about it more or want to contact me....
anacrid1@yahoo.com
in fact...sarita....please email me
and also...thank you for respondng to my other question.
email me..
:-)
im prayin for ya
Romans 8:38-39
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
2006-08-28 10:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has obviously fallen in with the wrong crowd, or is definately going through something emotionally. If you guys are teenagers thats pretty common, although unfortunate. The best thing I would do in this situation is let her know that you will allways be there for her and will always love her, and that you value her friendship. The next step is give her space. Don't be all up in her face. Only call her every once in a while just to let her know you're still there. Be open to spend time with her but don't be so clinging. Give her space, find yourself other friends and interests, while keeping her in the background of your mind. Within time, if she has a good heart, she will come back to you. If not, Oh well. Some people change as they grow and you just have to accept that and move on to the next person. It hurts I know but that's just human nature. I hope she'll come around.
2006-08-28 17:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by BadGirlGimpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually once you are able to deal with the hurt that this "sister" of yours has put you through, you will be able to realize a lesson that I am still learning today. Friendships are not always something that can last forever. You may have to face the possibility of this friendship being over. God puts certain people in our lives for a reason. You will have to accept the fact that it is over and just appreciate and cherish the good times that the two of you had together. This goes for a friendship or relationship with anyone. Why be there and stick your neck out for someone who would rather lie on you and treat you horribly anyway?
2006-08-28 16:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by lb83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. tell her you love her & don't understand why she's being this way, all you've ever done was try to be the best-est friend she could have. Tell her to tell her parents the truth that you'll be right there with her the whole time. Thru everything. If she doesn't go along & still wants to throw your friendship away, screw her, just leave her alone & try to find new friends, & sooner or later she'll realize she missed out on something great, the BEST-EST FRIEND that took up for her, bought her nice things, and was always there for her, is now gone..........
GooD LucK
2006-08-28 16:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life the best answer is to turn and walk away. You could always wait a few days to see if the friend starts to come around again but don't expect miracles. This can be viewed as an opportunity to explore other routes without guilt. Good luck and be fair to yourself. We never fully know nor understand what another person is up to, but at least we can have a look at what we want and who we are and work from that viewpoint.
2006-08-28 16:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by HoneyBearCub 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her parents the truth about their daughter so that they can intervene on her behalf!
As for the friendship, that was over when she begin to change and started to treat you bad. I'm sorry that harsh but that is the truth, no person would wan to be mistreated like that. I hope this will help you get over her and i also hope you will find a new friend that will honor your friendship and you!
2006-08-28 16:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Doc Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change - it's part of life. If she's changed in a direction that you don't care to follow, time to move on. Don't make a big drama out of it, or get angry with her, just move on down the road. Someday, she may be a very different person, and you may restart your friendship, but for now, best to leave her be.
2006-08-28 16:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by Clockwork Grape 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her that she's hurt you. She may be going through something that you are not aware of. Tell her that you are worried about her. If she still wants to have a funky attitude, tell her your better off not being friends. You don't need people in your life that you can't trust. It will be hard, but you'll find another friend...
2006-08-28 16:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by littleann75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understanding that in life we will have many friends and few genuine ones.
Friendships change over time as well. You can't expect the friends you have today to be with you forever either. The new reality is that we have greater freedom of choices today and that will cause many to stray to get what they want for themselves in life.
2006-08-28 16:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did your part so dont worry any more just pray to and ask God what is the right thing to do. He will give you a answer and if you and her dont become friends again then thats your answer you didnt really need her. try to make more friends e-mail me and we can talk sometimes i dont have any friends but i have had some to treat me bad .
2006-08-28 16:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋