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I dont know my wife wont tell me!

2006-08-28 10:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

What it is is natural. When you initially meet you have brain chemicals and hormones going nuts, its called the infatuation stage and is truly meaningless when it comes to determining the likelihood of this becoming a lasting relationship. Unfortunately people lose their common sense and make huge decisions while still in the infatuation stage. It passes, it has to, what would get done in the world if everyone was like that all the time. Hopefully though while in this stage you also get to know who the other person really is and you develop a deep respect and friendship with that person. Then when you start to see their bad side, when you start the 'real' part of the relationship you still have some basis for a relationship. So to solve your problem you WAIT until you are out of the infatuation stage before trying to determine whether someone is life partner material or not.

2006-08-28 09:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0 0

It isn't the getting married or living together that changes things, it is simply time spent together that changes things. No relationship is going to stay brand new forever. Plus when you first meet someone there is a chemical reaction that causes a natural high. Over the course of years this chemical reaction gradually fades in your body and you lose that initial high. This happens even if you just date some one long term. When you first get involved it is all new, every experience is new, every question is new, etc...over time things become more routine and most things are just a repeat of your past. It isn't a bad thing, and if you are careful you learn to keep trying to make sure there is a little new always in your relationship.

2006-08-28 09:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1 0

That's the difference between Love and Lust. Lust can last years and has the ability to overshadow the annoying things your partner does. Love is being very aware of those annoying habits and accepting / enjoying them.

I've only been living with my wife for 3 years and been married for one year, but in that time we've never had an arguement and only been annoyed with each other 3 or 4 times. It all about finding the right person, not a person that's almost exactly what you want. You might have to wait many many years for it to happen, but eventually you'll find love rather than lust.

2006-08-28 09:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by Simon 3 · 1 0

When you marry you get comfortable with eachother. You know eachother perks,you know what sets them off,what they love,what they hate, you just get comfortable. But when you first meet you hardly know that person cause you are caught up in the love you hardly get to know that person, you just know he or she makes your heart skip a beat. Married, you have agruments about money,the kids,the chores, jobs, being single and just dating at the time you don't have to share this together. You just have to learn away to make it all work out and find that flame that made you love eachother the first time you seen eachother.

2006-08-28 10:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by hopelovesu2004 2 · 0 0

For most couples, it is because the newness and thrill is gone. You settle into everyday life, which can be mundane and boring. I never let this happen in my marriage. We have been married 10 years and I still cannot get enough of him, or him of me. We experiment, role play, try new things, go new places and always communicate our needs and desires to each other.

2006-08-28 09:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1 1

When you first meet its all about the fun and adventure, now you're living together there is no fun and adventure. I believe in life is what you make it to be.
To make things work try new things, do more together, the best thing is take an interest in what your partner like to do - it's new for you and fun for them.

Good Luck

2006-08-28 09:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Easy Tiger 2 · 0 0

know exactly how you feel when ,me and my partner got to gether it was hugs kisses and cant wait to see you etc now it is a quick peck on the check and a pat on the back with a see ysa later no lovey stuff anymore .Think it is cause you take the other person for granted and just feel comfortable and like you do not have to make and effort to be romantic anymore cause you have got them .

2006-08-28 22:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by stephy200125 2 · 0 0

I got the same situation. I guess most of man are like that. After marriage, they show all their attitude and bad behavior such as drinking, playing poker, don't ever clean after eating. After all, they just think they are the head of household and do thing just for their own goods.

2006-08-28 22:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kiki 1 · 0 0

It doesn't have to be like that. A lot of people think they don't have to try once they are married but a good marriage needs to be nurtured & worked at.

2006-08-28 10:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 0 0

i think its all about the thrill in the beginning , someone couple new , doing new things. having a very strong attraction for one another. sex everyday. lots of cuddling. but once you get married these things are most likely to go down hill.

2006-08-28 10:57:57 · answer #11 · answered by latina 2 · 0 0

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