what helped you to cope best? (Words of wisdom, advice from others who experienced it, switching your focus, etc.) Were you torn between feeling selfish/guilty (i.e. wanting your parents to stay together even though you knew they weren't happy w/each other) & wanting what's best for them (i.e. separation/divorce)?
Most importantly, how did the separation/divorce affect your relationship with your significant other? Did you start feeling paranoid for no reason? Did you start to doubt that you'd ever have a successful relationship but instead feel strongly that the same thing would happen to you and your spouse?
How did you get past feeling that way? Do you now feel totally secure in your marriage/relationship?
2006-08-28 09:25:29 · 4 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was ecstatic when they did. It improved all of our relationships with each other. It had no bearing on my relationships. Sad to watch your parents go through it, but they move on.
2006-08-28 09:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Carp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you and your spouse clones of your parents? Did you make the same mistakes? Your parents have probably been miserable for years. You first realize that they are seperate people from you and your feelings really don't have anything to do with it. You sound like you are viewing this from a childs perspective. Wouldn't you feel differently if they were friends of yours? Just another couple you know?
2006-08-28 09:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are individuals,do you want them to be miserable all their lives to make YOU happy. I hope not. Remember that they have a right to happiness. But you are not them. You have not had the same experiences, so your thoughts of marriage should be alot different. Do not feel quilty about anything, it is THEIR choice not yours. So you should be happy in your own relationships. Because it happened to them for whatever reason, does not mean it will happen to you at all.
2006-08-28 10:46:15 · answer #3 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a guy, go with your mom, she may need some one to fill her empty box now and then.
if you are a girl, stay away from your dad...he may want to fill your box.
2006-08-28 09:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by John M 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋