the dos and don-ts of planning a wedding?

Answer 1

DON'T let the mother-in-law get involved.

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Answer 2

Agree with your spouse to be what you both want, what you would each like, what can and cannot be compromised on and what you can save on. Then when you have an idea, do it your way (the both of you, I mean) and agree that neither of you will let anyone else (whoever may be paying~) to call the shots. This is the beginning of your life together, so you should approach it as a united front. Also, remember that it is just ONE day, the start of your marriage and the important bit is the ceremony where you will dedicate your lives together in front of your guests. Any party after that, entered into with love and spirit will be great, no matter the details. Try not to get too caught up on them, but to remember that you are enjoying the day as a celebration.

I got married the same year as several other couples who were friends of ours, this was 12 years ago, some of them spend £11,000 on their day, we spent £3,500 yet every single guest, including the other couples who were married that year said it was one of, if not the, best wedding they had ever been to. It looked surprisingly tasteful and posh despite the minimum spend because we shopped around and knew what we would and would not compromise on. Once the arrangements were in place, we just looked forward to it and didn't take the whole reception thing too seriously. In fact, it bucketed with rain on our day and even that didn't diminish the fun we had.

Remember, no one needs to drink real champagne, a good cava is just as good, often better. Hunt for a venue that don't charge for room hire, but maybe charge a little more per head for the food, it will be cheaper in the long run. Don't pay the bar bill yourselves, people expect to pay for their drinks after you have fed them all day. Get friends to help if they are good at things, like cake making, dress making, hair and make up, anyone with a nice flash car will save money on the motor! Unless you know one, do get a good, recommended photographer, the pictures will be something that you will look back on. Make wedding favours yourselves, they are pretty easy and you can get kits. Attend wedding fairs for ideas and work out what you can do yourself, you will save money, and it will add a real personal touch and you'll enjoy doing it.

If money is no object, then go for what you want, but don't take thihngs too seriously, the more flexible you can be with people who are arranging things, the more relaxed you will be on the day. God bless and have a lovely day and happy marriage.

Answer 3

Do - everything exactly as you and your fiance want to.
Do - have fireworks at the end of the night (fantastic end to the day)
Do - pay for a good photographer
Do - take the week before off work to spend time making sure every tiny detail is right
Do - meet people for a couple of drinks the night before if they have travelled a long way to be with you on the day.
Don't - get too stressed, its supposed to be the happiest day of your life
Don't - invite anyone you don't want to


Good Luck! I'm sure you'll have a perfect day!

Answer 4

Just a tip, especially if you are moving away to a new house, get a visitors book for guests to sign on the day at the reception, that is always lovely to see in years to come, but also ask for their names and addresses, I lost touch with so many old friends through being wrapped up with the darned wedding and stuff!

Good luck!

Answer 5

The biggest "don't" is don't try to have a steak wedding on a hamburger budget. In other words, stay within your means. You can have a beautiful wedding on any budget. You run into problems when you try to do more than your wallet can handle.

Answer 6

Do what you would like, don't let people talk you into things that you don't want. And don't forget to ask your fiance what he would like - some men feel left out of the wedding preparations!

Answer 7

Don't worry about something going wrong on the day, something always does. But it's those things that you will be talking about the most, after the event. So it adds to the memories.

Answer 8

dont turn into a bridezilla!!!! So try theknot.com it helps...and they even give u a webpage for u to design and post pics before during and after the wedding...

Answer 9

I personally say be traditional, but not to traditional. Show your personality through your planning. Also do not go to over the top. It can be intimidating to the guests.

Answer 10

I don't think there is a simple answer for this. It is just what is best for you and your fiance. If you are looking for ideas or need advice on ettiquette, go to theknot.com or weddingchannel.com. Congrats!

Answer 11

Don't.

Elope and use the money for something practical ... like your first home or paying your bills.

Why start out in debt for a single days worth of photographs?