2006-08-28 09:11:57 · 21 answers · asked by matt w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you're a jerk!!! leave her alone
2006-08-28 09:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by knufflebunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you never did love her, you where just looking for a little ,unruly kids is a good excuses,she will do better with the next one stay out of her life,she don't need some like you there kids will away come first
2006-08-28 09:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by tay3r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until her unruly kids are grown. Otherwise you'll be in the unfortunate situation of step-parenting kids for whom you have no actual responsibility. The best that can happen is that she lets you discipline her kids and get them in order (personally, I don't like this solution because the kids already have parents) and the worst is that they'll make life harder for you. If she does let you interfer in discipline, she'll be making you the "bad guy" and then stepping in to "save them from you" on her pet issues.
It's a package deal, you either can live with it or you can't.
2006-08-28 09:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by BeamMeUpMom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Step parenting is the hardest job in the world. There is nothing more difficult. The kids don't want you there at minimum. It's even more difficult if their mother doesn't step in and lay down rules of behavior. Not a whole lot you can do unless your partner and you can agree on a plan for discipline and order--and stick to it. Sorry about that.
2006-08-28 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get past the "kid" issue my friend in order to be with this woman. She is a mother! She will not give her babies up for you.
That is just the fact of the matter.
Find ways to draw the kids to you. Remember, you are an adult and they are just kids trying to protect their mother.
To them, you are seen as an interloper. The only thing they know is, where is my daddy?
Good Luck.
Have fun but be safe.
2006-08-28 09:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about her parenting skills and how they affect her kids behavior. Tell her that it reflects poorly on her as parent that her kids act in such a way. Let her know that u still want to be with her, but some changes have to made in how she runs her household. Suggest some good parenting books to her and give her specific examples of how to correct the kids' behavior. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-28 09:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love her, you should try to be a little more accepting of her children. You should understand that maybe it's been a bit difficult for her to have those children and still have a life outside of them. Try to get along with them better by taking them out for a day, or get to know them better by participating in a few of their activities (like baseball or soccer).
2006-08-28 09:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest family counseling. If she & they accept, go together & really try to work things out. It's the least you can do, if you really love her. Her kids will grow into adults & then you can have your 'alone together' time with her - but right now, they are a package deal. Hang in there - I have heard of many people in this tough situation. You must be tougher.
2006-08-28 09:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be a good example to her children and if they are of an age to discipline, get her permission to act as a father figure and make them behave. you are an adult and i am assuming they are children. if you want her, they will be part of the package. there is no getting away from it and you might find that "her unruly children" need a good male influence (hence their unruliness). gl
2006-08-28 09:15:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop being so selfish. u luv her but dont want the most important thing in her life. buddy, save urself and her alot of heartache and walk away. u dont have wut it takes to be a father, and if ur gonna be in her life, get used to it, ur like a dad.
her "unruly" kids will always be number 1 to her, and rightly so. if u cant deal with that, y wud u think ur "love" for her will make things better.
there's alot of women out there with no kids or baggage. be honest with urself and find one of them. start thinking of others, u'll save urself and her alot of heartache.
2006-08-28 09:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by mex-o-funk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you let her know how the kids can be and see if maybe she can talk to them....do not make the mistake of you trying to speak with them, she can decide between her kids and you so therefore let her know what's so unruly about the kids so that she can discuss matters with them and maybe things will change.
2006-08-28 09:15:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋