Girls what is going on here?

Question

What the hell is the deal with so many women wanting to go back to men who don't want them, men who cheated, men who left not only them but their own kids, and men who generally treated them like crap? WHY GO BACK???? Why don't these women move forward? Find someone who will be decent to them..... are that many women THAT insecure? Do they really think they need a man like that? Why wouldn't they rather be alone with some self respect than live with a self centered arrogant pig?

Answer 1

women are insure about themselves. they feel like they cant get no one else-when we all know everyone is beautiful in their own way! i'm totally digging your question, cuz the same women that talk all that mess about there bf or whatever runs right back to him

Answer 2

Because they gave there whole selves to the relationship and when they leave, pieces of them are left behind, therefore leaving them with a sense of connection even to cruel men. Also, when you're in limbo between a man and being alone, you don't see things as everyone else does and you begin to question if he's really that bad. There's also a shortage of truely good men in this world and some men appear to be good at first and then change, and women have high hopes that they'll some how change back to good. Please don't criticize these women, but offer them a shoulder to cry on. They need support from a strong woman like you.

Answer 3

Because the bad thing that you know is always easier than what you don't know. Many of them are in love with the IDEA of who they want someone to be and they convince themselves they can change. Besides men are great at playing games with women, granted women make it too easy, but they want some without too much work so suddenly they 'love' you again and since its what they want to believe they believe it. Sooner or later (hopefully) they wise up. Many were raised by mothers who either struggled everyday because she chose to be alone or that tolerated being treated badly so these women don't even know that anything else exists, that these things aren't just what love and relationships are. If they have never experienced it themselves or even seen it anywhere else how do they know? And if they assume it will be the same no matter what they do why not just take the crap from someone you already know? Another thing that parents fail to realize when raising kids, when making that wrong decision to stay in a bad marriage because they fool themselves in to thinking its better for the kids. I was never good at taking crap and preferred struggling on my own to eating crap everyday now I see my son and even with his one big love he refused to be treated like or thought of as less than the good person he is, that made me proud and I knew I had done the right thing!

Answer 4

You would think so but unfortunately the men have them thinking they are not worth crap. That they won't find someone to love them. That is how they control them and they fall in the tap. Yes they need to work on their self esteem. I had a couple ex's that did that and I truly thought I was no good for no one. That all the failures were my fault. I have just realized with the help of a very sweet, caring and loving man that I AM worth the time and effort. I have never been this happy in a relationship.

Answer 5

Some women are afraid of change, afraid of failure or rejection. They may think that they don't deserve or cannot do any better. The time they spent in the relationship really tore down their sense of self worth. It really takes time to heal and rediscover their self. Their true self. To realize their own beauty and importance in the world. It can be scary to be on your own. To many women even being with the biggest A_SS on the planet is better than the stigma many single women face. They figure, at least they have someone. Even if that someone is bad news. Ladies, we need to empower one another. To build ourselves up as sisters. We do not NEED a man. We are not DEFINED by who we are with. Marriages and partnerships are exactly that. Partnerships. With both being treated with dignity and respect by the other. If those things together with trust are not evident, then the relationship is going to fail. Just don't go there. We are worth a lot! We are important in this world. Men are jealous of women. That is why they seek to belittle and degrade us. Stand up for yourself! Kick that ZERO to the curb. You ARE better than that. You know it and so do we.

Answer 6

Your so right. In todays world girls are much more sexual at way too young of ages and are now as immature as the guys. They are not mature enough emotionally to handle sex and relationships.

Unfortunately guys deal with sex as an act and for girls it's more emotional.

The big thing now is for young girls to date guys from other races that have kids from other women. You also see girls in abusive relationships both physically and emotional abusive guys. They take their self esteem and their identity and the girl begins they think they can't live with a scumbag of a guy.

There are a lot of broken homes as well; Fathers aren't there where they should be teaching their girls on how they should be treated and protecting them.

The young generation is EXTREMELY disfunctional in relationships and it gets worse every year.

Girls need to realize they're important, and that actions, and not words of the guy shows their character.

One rap artist said if you want a girl to love you, you treat them like crap. The worse you treat them the more they'll love you.

Very sad, but unfortunately, very true.

Answer 7

so true! you know alot of these women have been stripped of their self respect by these pigs. the key is within self, if you dont know who you are ,you will let that man tell you who you are and alot of times thats what destroys a woman's self esteem. and if she hasnt learned to love herself , then she will depend on that man for love and his love is not always healthy. these women cannot move forward until they do some soul searching to find self worth and learn to set boundries on love and how important it is to be respected. when you are told so often that know one wants you and you are a sorry excuse of a woman some tend to believe it and think that . if we could get women to start taking a stand and demand the respect and letting these men know that we have confidence that cant be broken and self worthiness that we will not tolerate that type of bullshit and walk out the door. then maybe the men will start to do some soul searching and get some help for their f ked up ways. keep the hope alive!

Answer 8

Good question. I think it's because the girl or woman thinks she can change her man or work it out with him. Now some times things do work out for the best but at others it's utter failure. I don't know why women do what you're asking or men let alone. I think it's because we hate being alone and we get attatched and it's near suicidal to let some one you love go like that. That's why I'm not in that "game" and when miss right comes along we'll have avoided all the pain and crap you speak of.

Answer 9

Sweety you hit the nail on the head when you said "are that many women THAT insecure? Insecurity in oneself is a very hard thing to get over. I speak from experience. There are many different instances in a person's life that cause them to become insecure about themselves. In time some of these women will say "enough!" and pick up their heads and say "f*ck it!" "I'm beautiful and important!" "I don't need this person bringing me down!" It's a "step at a time" type thing. Please try and understand. You wouldn't want to be in our shoes but if you ever are I wish you the best. Keep your head up.

Answer 10

I say the same thing daily, I guess some women think that a magic cloud will come down and transform these guys into a suitable person...yea, it could happen...when pigs fly. There are many, many foolish girls/women out there. It is hard to believe that there are so many stupid people out there who don't see any further than their nose when it comes to getting married. Amazing.

Answer 11

for some woman its not that easy to move on from abusive violent or cheating relationships because of the way they grew up sometimes a mom or dad of theres might have been through the same thing or there parents abused them as kids and are dependent on the abuse believe its normal or that they don't deserve any thing better because growing up they were told that or they love the person there with so much and are afraid to let go because there afraid no one else Will love or want them!