I love my ex husband and hope we can get remarried?

Question

Me and my ex got a divorce the end of June. We are currently living together. The reason for the divorce was I was confussed. Iwas very unhappy. the whole time I thought he was making me unhappy. But I relized after it was to late it was my job creating my unhappiness. Well, I quit my job and now I am very happy with my current one. I messed up. Now I would give anything to remarry him. We have two small children together. Like I said we are living together and we are happy. But I feel like something is missing with our vows together. Can anyone give me some suggestions?

Maybe I should have added a few more details... I'm not the only one in the wrong. He has alot of faults. He is hardly ever home. He doesn't spend every much time with me and the kids. He is real big in hunting and fishing. When he gets off work he is in the woods or on the river fishing until dark everyday. He is a good man though. I'm not the only one at fault. Maybe if he was home more and we talked more we could have figured things out sooner. We are doing that now.

Answer 1

You need a religious deciphering of the wedding
vows, and do it again if he wants to.
Remember, "the family that prays together,
stays together. Find a good family church.
Counseling may really have helped you before
the divorce. It still can help.

Answer 2

Well I think my husband and I went through something similar.......we were married for 4 years and just had a baby and he left me........he hated his job and he spent alot of time there......he became attracted to a co-worker and thought that he wanted to be with her.......we were seperated for a year, he switched jobs and we tried to work things out..........I had no clue about the whore at work til we were already back together.....we had not gone through the divorce so we are still married but he kept suggesting that we just divorce and try to work things out and then get married and I wouldn't have it........I told him that once those papers were signed it was over and we would go our seperate ways.........I held out for a year praying that he would come to his senses...........he did...........but now the marriage is a mess because i was 8 months pregnant with baby #2 that he had lied to me, and that he left me to try to pursue something with this woman....So basically what I am sating is that if you felt so strongly that you wanted a divorce, then before trying to get remarried and reconcile, make sure that that is what you want and that you guys go to counseling and get EVERYTHING out in the open..........If I would have known the real circumstances as to why he left me I would have never gotten back with him and now I just resent him and I am very unhappy.......

Answer 3

the heart needs what it needs. you want to substantiate who you want to be with and commit your self 100%. Its not honest on your present day husband that you're feeling on your ex. you'll desire your husband to be committed to you totally and could be damage if he felt something for someone else. Its continuously available to love many human beings, purely on diverse ranges. you want to do a touch soul searching and choose the great direction for you. DOe syour ex sense a similar about you or understand of your thoughts? in case you aren't getting this straightened out, you'll likely finally end up having an affair it really is a not ordinary element to go back back from. think ofyou've got ruined your present day marriage and your ex will purely see you as a fling and in no way appreciate you. the position does that get you? on my own

Answer 4

So you and your now ex husband wasted alot of money on legal fees and now you want to get remarried if it didnt work out the first time because of you they why would your ex husband consider remarrying you maybe hes comfortable just living with you and your kids after all you are still a Family just a divorced one now.

Answer 5

Why fix something that isn't broken. Your both happy so give it some time. You just got divorced in June. Give it a year and make sure you still feel the same way. Don't jump into anything with out giving yourself some time.

Answer 6

I suggest that you take your time and just be happy. Most of all you both should focus on the kids. Don't rush back into getting married. For the time being just pretend that you still are but your kids should come first no matter what.

Answer 7

I think your husband is a fool to be with you. I think you need to realize that the main reason he's with you is because of the kids. If you had no children, he would not be with you. If I were your ex, I would never marry you because you cannot be trusted.

Give it time. If you convince him, he may ask you to marry him. For now, be thankful he wants you around. Most men would have nothing to do with you after you acted like you did.

You may think I'm being mean, I'm not, just being real!

TX Guy

Answer 8

I don't care how happy you too are I wouldnt be thinking about re-marrying. If there are no plans for anyone to move out and move on, I would just wait and see how it goes but re-marriage would be out in case you flip the script.....again!!!

Answer 9

I really think you do need counseling too. Marriage is sacred, unfortunately many don't think that way anymore. Do your children know you are divorced? If they don't talk to your husband to reconsider, if they do know.....what are you showing them? That they can run away from their problems?

Answer 10

seek counselling... I really think that there is something underlying there... I think you just want what you can't have, and once you get it back you won't want it anymore.