I've been friends with a person for 8 years now. We were close in high school and we got really close in college and have been there for each other in graduate school. All during this time, I've had a few boyfriends but never forgot about my friends. I made sure my life wasn't about my boyfriend because my friends are always number one. And I made sure my friends and my boyfriend(s) communicated with each other. Well, my best friend now has a boyfriend and has nearly stopped talking to me because she's with him all the time. And when we do talk, she talks non-stop about him even saying they're going to get married (they've been dating for three weeks now). It also doesn't help that nearly everyone else in my social circle has a boyfriend, is getting married, or is already married.
I guess I have two questions:
1. How do I communicate with this friend without being totally harsh?
2. What should I do now that I don't have any available friends?
2006-08-28 08:52:59 · 18 answers · asked by babyg1rl007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tough spot.
I'd say that you should explore other friendships because you need some people who
1. Will have time
2. Understand your situation
3. Can partner with you
2006-08-28 08:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off - Dont feel sad. People do silly things and in the long run it will turn out for the best im sure.
to anwser the first part - maybe you dhould tell her how you feel (corney huh?) I think you guys are close enough where she will understand. Tell her you want to say... go shopping? Just you and her. Talk about things that you have in common and not guys :)
For the second issue - I would go somewhere where you can meet people? Not that you need to start looking for all new friends. But maybe you could find a local place that you enjoy :D
2006-08-28 08:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Airzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Get Interested Friendwise In the Boyfriend
2. Realign Your Misplaced Values And Get A Boyfriend And have HIM Be No#1 For Once, Then Maybe the Relation Ship Can Have A Fighting Chance
2006-08-28 08:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by skettopolis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people gets very occupied during the first stage of love. As in first stage of love, people hide their actual habits, feelings etc and try to show how much gentle he/she is, teens like your friend thinks that person is best in the universe. Because she knows the odd side of your corrector, she is thinking he is the best. Not all have maturity like you who doesn't mess new relations with old one. But don't worry, within few days, every ones odds will be exposed, and after that she would be normal again.
2006-08-28 09:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by dnagsarkar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First there is no reason to be harsh at all to your friend. I understand that you are very lonely and it seems like all your friends are in serious relationships. Just be happy for them. As for your concerns regarding the new relationship your friend is in, just make sure that you express them to her, and let her know that you will support her no matter what.
As to your friends, there is no reason that you can't still hang out. Maybe they can introduce to you a few of thier single friends. Or if hanging out with only couples makes you uncomfortable, why not try meeting some new friends at your church's singles fellowship or other similar group. Just be sure to not exclude your current friends when making new ones.
2006-08-28 09:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by sbredch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wish I had a dollar for every time I've heard your story....lol.
Your "so-called" friend has moved on. She's either in love or thinks she's in love with this guy and you have moved down the totem pole in importance. OK, so most of the friends in your social circle are attached.......time for you to get out and meet some new friends.
*If you friend's relationship doesn't work out, don't be surprised if she comes back to cry on your shoulder.
2006-08-28 09:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry too much. sounds like your friend is just going through the giddyness of a new relationship. It will most likely wear off and she will start acting more normal. then you can tell her what a brat she is being by ignoring her friend cause of a boy.. I'd gove it a couple weeks and if she is still acting this way, justtell her how you feel.
2006-08-28 08:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by writenimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are important in life but at the same time it feels like you dont want/ or are afraid of having and keeping a relationship{not friendship}and being intimate{not sexual} with the opposite sex.we need friends and we also need other people beyond our regular friends. there is no need to communicate anything with your friend except continue as friends, she is having a necessary life experience were her emotions and other feelings are bieng exercised.continue as you were doing and if u r not ready for a boyfriend dont rush take your time and when there r no friends available the only available best friend is yourself...and thats a true test, can you stand yourself?
2006-08-28 09:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Be a true friend to your friend and just be happy for her. The infatuation will wear thin eventually and she'll come back to being normal.
2. Go out and get more friends. It sounds like you have your priorities right about how to treat friends so, anyone would be happy to be your friend :)
2006-08-28 08:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 3 weeks and they're talking about marriage. This sounds a little premature. I have a felling that things will be back to normal in no time.
2006-08-28 08:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋