This is terrible. my 6-month old keeps falling off of our bed?

Question

She's fallen off 3 times. The second time we went to the E.R. and they said she looked healthy and couldn't see anything wrong with her. It's easier for me to breastfeed her in bed with me, Since i don't have a rocking chair. Should i take her to the dr. this time too? What syptoms to look for other than abnormal behavior. I feel like a bad mother. i know it's the bound to happen

Answer 1

No, you are not a bad mother. However, if your baby fell off the bed three times-- pleaassee, try to prevent it from happening again. Forget a rocking chair--- do you have any chairs in the house that you could sit in while breastfeeding??
Take your baby to hospital-- better safe than sorry:)

Answer 2

I can understand it being easier to breastfeed laying down, that is how my son did best, however, you must either be falling asleep while nursing or letting your baby stay in the bed with you when you are done nursing. If it is the first, which I can understand especially if he/she is still nursing several times a night the first thing that you need to do is really try to stay awake while nursing, secondly what you can do, I will assume that you and baby are both laying on your sides facing each other, is roll up a small blanket, like a receiving blaket, and put that behind your child against their back to make it more difficult to roll over. I wouldn't use a pillow because they are big and quite frankly could suffocate your child if he or she happend to pull it ontop of themselves and you weren't aware (which I assume you wouldn't be, because you are not aware enough to keep him or her from falling of off the bed). If it is the second and you are letting your baby stay in your bed while you go back to sleep or go do whatever else then I really encourage you to return your baby to his or her crib or playpen where they can't fall and get hurt.

Now on to your original question, after any serious fall, and at six months lets be honest every fall is a serious fall, I would say that you should take your child to see a physcian. Abnormal behavior can include being especially sleepy (if your child is usually very alert and not a sleepy baby to begin with), being hard to wake, other signs to look for that may be signs of injury are continous crying (as if in pain), dialated eyes, brusing, contusions, difficulty in moving limbs and joints.

If this is the third time that this has happened I would find a better way to feed your child such as sitting in an armchiar or on the couch and putting a pillow under your arm for support. What you are doing is neglecting the well being of your child, which does make you a bad, even abusive parent, especially since this has happend more then one time and you still have not changed your patterns. It seems to be a trend and doctor's are required to report signs of abuse (including neglect) to the proper athorities.

Answer 3

I have a 6-month old, and I don't keep him in my bed. I breastfeed him sitting on the edge of my bed. Most of the time he is in his crib or his swing, if not there, then in my arms. You should practice this too. NEVER live the baby alone out of the crib. Not for a second. There is no excuse for doing that. What can be more important than your baby? And every time you think that you need a doctor's help, don't hesitate to ask for it. So, don't wait. Take your baby to E.R.

Answer 4

It's not bound to happen. My son is 7 months old and has never fallen off the bed. You do sound like a bad mother and somebody should contact child protective services on you. Especially if you let it happen 3 times. Poor baby!!! Take the baby to the doctor and tell them that you have dropped it 3 times and see what they reccomend. I hope this is a joke because you can't be that stupid.

Answer 5

Get a bed rail.

Or move your bed up flush against the wall. If there is any room between the bed and the wall, stuff that with foam or pillows or something so she can't get stuck in the hole. Then keep her between you and the wall.

Or wedge a crib between your bed and the wall with the mattresses set at the same height.

Or buy a co-sleeper that attaches to the side of your bed.

Or, do what several of my friends have done and take the bed off the frame and put the mattresses right on the floor until she is older.

BY THE WAY.....
Don't let these people try to scare you. Co-sleeping is FINE if you do it safely. It is good for you and for baby and it makes nursing at night much easier.

BE CAREFUL of all the people who are telling you to use pillows. That doesn't fit in with safe co-sleeping guidelines.

AND NO.....she isn't likely to smother her baby in her own bed as long as she is not on drugs, drunk or morbidly obese. How often do all you people fall out of bed? YOU DON'T because you have a sense of where the edge of the bed is at. Sleeping with a baby is the same way.....ESPECIALLY for a breastfeeding mother. She has a sense of where the baby is in the bed.

Answer 6

I also breastfed my baby in our bed as it was easier but she never fell out of bed. We did have a waterbed and this may have helped but it was never a problem. Could you pull the bed up next to a wall and sleep on that side and even though it may involve crawling over your spouse/partner? It would be worth it not to have the baby fall. Is this a carpeted room? Perhaps you could lay a foam pad, couch cushions, whatever on the side of the bed that is open to the floor.
You don't need a rocking chair to breastfeed a baby. If you are not able to keep the baby from falling you need to sit up in a chair and/or stay awake.

Answer 7

If you are feeding the baby on the side nearest the edge of the bed, get two extra bed pillows or one of those body pillows and put them behind the baby. If you are sleeping with a man as well, that means you are going to have to crowd him. Otherwise, you need to give up this practice. I did it, but if she was on the outside, I didn't go back to sleep until I could move her to the inside. (NO, no one every rolled over and smothered her, some people are very shocked right now) . My daughter did it, but she is a single mother, so the bed was pushed up next to the wall and she had pillows behind him and pillows behind her so no matter what, he wouldn't go anywhere.

Answer 8

You should'nt have her in the bed w/you.IBut i'm sure she is just fine.Always keep her up 30 mins after bumping her head.They recommend doing this in case of a concussion.My son has fallen of of our bed a time or 2 while sitting on it and he has always been ok.

Answer 9

You need to get a co-sleeper bed if you are against putting your child in a crib. The brand "the first years" has one for less than $40.00 at walmart.com. I tried to post the picture but it wouldn't paste.

Answer 10

Well if it easier to feed her in bed than put a bassinet beside your bed so you can put her back in there after your done if she is starting to sit up than put her in a crib, I am sorry to say but that is pure lazy. i have twins that used to get up during the night too to be fed that si what a nursing pilllow is for just go into the livingroom and sit on the couch and if you really want to use your bed than put a crib in your room so you can put her back after her feeding.