Deploying Husband?

Question

My husband is deploying in mid October. I had a son 5 months ago and we have been married less than 2 years. I love him so much and I am willing to support him and stand beside him no matter what, but how in the world will I get through 15 months without him there? I'm 500 miles from home and I have only 2 friends I consider to be friends. Anyone else go through the same thing and if so what did you do?

Answer 1

Hang out on Yahoo! Answers. The time goes by very quickly on here. I've been married 15 years, and you will both be soooo proud of yourselves for making it through this. Two friends are plenty! Your son needs you to be strong...at the end of 15 months, he'll be almost 2 years old and walking. I'm sure he'll keep you busy! Good luck to all three of you!

Answer 2

I have deployed several times in my military career and it can be tough. Your husbands unit should have many programs for you and your child to help get you through. I have seen a deployed spouses group where they have meetings and share stories and do things on weekends etc. Most bases/unit have a family support center where you can do a video call once a week or so, units have morale calls for each soldier so they can talk to their family.
Realize that you will not be alone in this. There are a lot of resources out there for you to use.
The one thing that keeps my wife and I going is the thought of once again being together when I get back and it's kinda like meeting each other for the first time again. We have so much to talk about and learn about each other.
You'll get through it, it may be tough but you'll both get through!

Answer 3

Your husband should have a support group in place for families of deployed personnel. If you find out more about this group and become active within it, you will find others that are asking the same questions and there will most likely be some that have been through it and will be more than willing to help.

I worked with the family group liason while on deployment once. They will do what ever it takes to help everyone make it through the depolyment and to make sure that every one integrates once it is over.

Answer 4

When I deployed my wife went back home where she had more of a support system than was available to her in California. It was also a lot cheaper to live there as well. If you decide for whatever reason that that's not an option, bases offer Family Services counselling and genuinely try to make spouses feel welcome and supported during these difficult transitions. These were far from perfect solutions, but they were there when no one else was. The whole family sacrifices when a service member deploys, not just the member themselves.There are plenty of us who have been there, and we appreciate the sacrifice you're making in the furthering of this nation's objectives. May the time pass smoothly and safely for you all. God bless.

Answer 5

Going through right now, it is not fun.. Enjoy the time you have with your child first.. Talk to your friends, call your family go home for a trip.. THings are tough at first, but they do get better, you will venture out and find things out about yourself once again... Join a mom's group, or a gym, or go get a job part-time or somehting, because it is difficult to be at home 24/7 with a child non stop with no help, moms need a break also... Best of luck to you and your family.. God Bless you all!!!

Answer 6

yes, I'm in a reversed situation. Its hard, but there are many things to help you though. Definately look into a camera for your computer do you can share web photos with him. Take up a comforting hobby, one that he can be part of too, for instance photo sharing, and photo scapbooking, let him be a part of your sons life though photos so he doesn't feel he's missing out. Look into classes, the military offers scholarships for spouses, maybe you can take a part time night classes, or join a local club. Hope this helps a little, remember it'll be just as tough for him as it will be for you, so always look for a positive side. :)

Answer 7

Honey, I am in the same spot you are in. It is going to be hard but if you keep busy the next year will go by so fast it won't seem like a year. Join the FRG! They can support you. I am not big on the hanging out with "Army Wives" but they know what you are going through and it someone to talk to.

Answer 8

you should be completely grateful you have 2 close friends and your son to get you through the lonliness. especially at night take your baby and hold him inplace of nuzzling w/ ur hubby. My sister lives in texas and I in Indiana, all we have eachother. No family or friends around. we just talk all day and night long on the phone. be grateful for what u do have, and put some serious love into yourself, friends and baby with all ur extra time. You are stronger, than you would or could ever imagine. I promise and guarantee you that.

Answer 9

I was in the Marines for 4 years (not married at that time though) and I would suggest checking into support groups there on the base. I know they have groups on each base so you can meet together, chat, and just help each other out.

good luck, it's not going to be easy but support groups will sure help out

Answer 10

i went through something very similar with my military husband. i ended up moving home to live amongst my own friends and family. it just got to be too much to be so lonely in a strange town. if he is going to be deployed that long, i believe the military offers to move you or put things in storage, might be worth it in the long run. it's important that you have people you trust and that care about you during this time, especially with a new baby.