That I am on birth control pills; well I was but I stop taking them because I'm ready to conceive I'm 20 years old I have a great job and I don't have any kids.
2006-08-28 08:16:21 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It's wrong on many levels:
1.) He is obligated to pay child support if it's his...he should know if you are trying to conceive.
2.) He may not want children in his life right now which means he's not the guy for you....he should know you are trying to conceive.
3.) He may want children but is not sure you are the one for him....he should know you are trying to conceive.
4.) Any other course of action besides telling him is deceipt which makes you a lying beatch...again he should know.
5.) You are only 20....not much more than a little girl...you can't even legally drink....try living a little with responsability....I can tell from your line of questioning that you are in fact NOT ready to have children yet if you cannot make this clear decision without asking for advice....will you lie to your kids also? When you say a good job are you clearing 60-70 k? Do you have enough to live in a house and pay a mortgage.....I think you are fooling yourself....
2006-08-28 09:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely wrong. How would you feel if you were a guy and your girlfriend said she was pregnant with your baby, but had an abortion? It's not fair to him. If you love your boyfriend, you should be honest with him. If he's not ready to have children, then you can't make that decision for him.
It's great that you have a great job. Why don't you put money away to buy a house, invest or travel? Children are a huge responsibility and lifelong commitment. Once you have them, you can't return them. Enjoy some of your youth and learn more about yourself and the world around you. I have seen too many people have children young and then regret it later. Not having their kids, but the time in their life that they had them.
2006-08-28 09:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that you are off of your birth control pills. If you get pregnant and then you tell him that you got off of them... he will think that you got pregnant on a sly and will more than likely despise you for that (if he is not ready for a child). Talk to him about trying to conceive... he might just understand and he might be ready himself. You need to discuss this over with him... and if he doesn't listen or does not want a child at all... then you need to find someone better. Good luck!!!
2006-08-28 08:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I did not see clearly what you were saying...But it looks like you told him that you are on the pill when in fact you quit? If this is the case,you need to discuss with him whether or not he wants to have a child right now because he may not say that he is ready and resent you and the baby if you get pregnant.It would sound to him that you trapped him and I just don't think that is the mature or smart thing to do.Give hinm a choice as to whether or not he wants to be a father right now.Don't be selfish!! And Good Luck to you both...I hope he is on the same page as you.
2006-08-28 08:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by miracle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can cause a great problem between ya'll. Why don't you just let him know your thoughts? Let him know that you would like to start building a family, after all this takes two people, not one. Do things the right way, why would you like the baby to be considered a mistake by your boyfriend?
If you really want to build a family together, talk to him and if he agrees, ya'll should talk about getting married first!
Slow down, you are still young! Things will thurn out better in the end if you think through things...Good-Luck!
Lies are a NO NO...
2006-08-28 08:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that would be like tricking him into getting pregnant you maybe ready and he may not be you need to discuss this with him first your still young. You may have a great job. But will you have this job like 5 to 10 yrs down the road? you need to think about what your doing and get back on birth control and talk to you boyfriend
2006-08-28 08:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Angie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you feel you're ready for kids, your boyfriend might not be. Tricking him isn't the way to go about this. I've met women who say "my babies don't need a daddy" but that's not fair to your kids. If you trick him and he walks away from you and the baby, your deceit has ruined their relationship for years to come maybe forever. You might also feel that you don't need him in your life, but your child has a right to the child support he would pay.
Go back on the pill and talk to him about this BEFORE you get pregnant.
2006-08-28 08:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by S. O. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely wrong. If you want a baby and no partner, go to a sperm bank. If you want a good father, the man has to know. It's completely unfair to trap him. You are doing your b/f and any future baby a complete disservice. You are clearly NOT ready to conceive if this is your great plan.
2006-08-28 08:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be asking yourself am I really grown up enough to have a child or you wouldn't be asking/posting this question. Women do not have the right to force a man to become a parent through deceit. Think of the child not yourself! What do you want out of your life? I believe you must be missing something (maybe time to grow older) to try and fill the void with a child. The only void you are going to fill is all of your time!
Please, please stop this now. For everyones best interest.
2006-08-28 08:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by makinitwork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it's wrong to lie to him, To have him think you are protected from having his child that he will ultimately be responsible for for 18 years is wrong. I know you want a child but maybe he does not. But then again a man should have back up like condoms anyway because you never know how many women are pulling this stunt all over the world. They think a child will bond you for life! Well it does but it rarely works out to your advantage
2006-08-28 08:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋