So why DO men have to be asked "nagged"?

Question

Why do men have to be asked to do things that obviously need to be done then say we nag? Why walk by your dirty underwear 5 times, why not just pick them up so we don't have to ask you to? Why leave your nasty hair in the sink till we want to strangle you? Why leave the garbage spilling all over the place till we ask ever so politley for you to take it out? Why not cut the grass before the kids lose 50 baseballs in it because it's so high? We don't leave your laundry to get moldy on the laundry room floor and we don't leave dishes in the sink till the flies come to feast. We don't leave the same sheets on the bed till the board of health is ready to condem the house so whats the deal?

Answer 1

Don't know. My solution with my husband and sons is to ask once then do it myself. It is just easier on me and anyway I know it is being done the way I want it. Yes, it is not teaching them anything, but. . . A lot of times my husband will jump in to help. For instance I asked for television cable to be run to the bedroom and weeks later went to do it myself, but of course was doing it wrong so he took over. Worked for putting up one of those inflatable 18 ft pools, new mailbox, etc. This works somewhat with the kids when I start throwing everything in bags to take to the Salvation Army.

As for the general housework, he will help if I refrain from criticizing how he does it. Helps that he knows I cannot stand housework and I am hardly ever home with the boys' sports practices etc.

How old are the kids? Can they mow the lawn?

Oh, try leaving a "bill" for your services such as a housekeeper would or a restaurant or laundry service.

Answer 2

Because you obviously have a lazy bf or husband. Not all of us are like that. Far from it. But if he knows that YOU will take care of him like his mother then he'll put up with some nagging just to get out of doing something.

My suggestion would be to stop doing stuff around the house. Don't cook for him, don't wash his clothes, just let everything go until he gets up off his lazy azz

Answer 3

The men who call us women "nags" are the men who don't listen. If we have to ask you 3 times to do something and the 4th time we need to get upset about it, who is being the jerk here, the man choosing to ignore our request like a 13 year old child with selective hearing or the women who does 95% of your **** per day! we do expect men to be men and children to be children, so any men out there listening, if you wanna be a child, tell us women before we get involved so we know what we are getting into.

Answer 4

Thank you for saying it for me!!!!!!!!!! My man gets so pissed off when I ask him for assistance, he doesn't realize just how much he plays that d-a-m-n computer and neglect every thing around him. Then he gets tight and tells me I just hate to see him happily occupied by something other than myself, plus I pick up behind everyone else in the house and he gets tight when I wage war!!!!!!!!! I have come to the conclusion that they are in denial and that it would take a camera to record the events for them to finally see the truth after which they will retreat back to their same old ways! It's just that they don't have the same mixture of chemicals as women do!

Answer 5

Some men are just plain lazy....they act as though they are still children and instead of living with their mommy they have replaced their mother with a wife....whom they now expect to cook for them, clean up after them and tell them how to dress themselves, pick up after themselves etc. etc. Your husband sounds like mine....I have to make him a list just to go to the grocery store even if there are three items to pick up because he can't manage to remember three things to pick up....even then sometimes he will pick up the wrong ones. He treats the home chores as my responsibilities since I do not have a paying "job" even though I raise five children.

Unfortunately, I have tried just about everything to get him to see his disrespectful ways and I have come to the conclusion that some men just don't grow up and mature as well as others. They expect to be taken care of by their spouses and they use the stereotypes that our parents used when we were growing up......

Answer 6

I only walk by my boxers 3 times, max. I'm bald and fat, so no hair. Garbage adds a nice aroma to the house, it's like man's potpourri. Those damn kids just break windows anyway, so I let the baseballs get lost. Mold is a great spore, I really like mushrooms. Flies need to eat too. Sheets don't get dirty, they get broken in. ;)

Answer 7

I don't know how people like you do it or better yet,put up with it.Marriage is a two way street,a joint effort especially when you have kids.When you marry it's for "better or worse" and you got stuck with the worse with your husbands laziness.I wish I could have a quick fix for you but I don't.Good luck trying to get into his thick skull.

Answer 8

I stopped nagging and started speaking respectfully to my husband and like magic the house was clean and the grass was cut...just one example.

Answer 9

Because they don't care about that. Try attaching sex to the chore...believe me, they start associating doing chores with sex...like a controlled stimulus. Now my husband gets hard doing the dishes, and also while vacuuming.

Answer 10

Pressure never works.
Tell him how happy it would make you if he could do this or that. Then leave it up to him. If he loves you (who can't?) he'll do it because he wants to.