Okay so I'm studying Interracial marriages in one of my classes so that i can do an exhibition on it in December. I just want to know what people think about interracial marriages and families. I am a bi-racial child whose father is black and mother is white and they are divorced. I was raised by my father. I believe that interracial marriage is fine but what about the effects on the children and what they go thru?
2006-08-28 07:50:36 · 46 answers · asked by pyncpryncezz22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With me it's kind of hard to actually not have problems with the interracial part of my life. My caucasian family doesn't except the fact that me and my siblings are all bi-racial (even though we all dont have the same fathers, but we do have the same mother.) When i was little my grandparents on my caucasian side treated us so differently that i reallii felt like an outcast in my family. Since they got in my head so much when i started school i was confused on what group of kids to talk to. I embrace both of my cultures and heritages but i think because my african- american family accepts us more i embrace that a lot more. I was raised around the african-american half and i just feel thats what make me who i am. Don't get me wrong i do still accept my other half and i do support and represent that half but my african american half is a little more effective on me.
2006-08-28 08:06:43 · update #1
There were some answers that reallii shocked me. The last two answers were and eye opener and i realize now that there are still ppl that still think that way. I believe that interracial relationships are a beautiful thing and that God never intended for it to be black and whites. I mean what is wrong with ppl now and days. Ppl older (way older) than me seem to be a lot more childish and immature about the situation. LIke the guy said it's not the parents that suffer its the children. Trust me i hear it everyday and after a while it gets old. I'm sick of being labeled as a nappy headed child that looks white but is tryin to be black. I'm sick of the looks and the comments. Ppl need to grow up. I am a fine haired, bi-racial, intelligent, respectful, mature, beautiful young lady with a nice head on my shoulders that would like a little more respect than what i get now.
2006-09-01 04:36:17 · update #2
As far as interracial marriages are concerned since the genie is out of the bottle, so to speak, we should all mix interracially. Then no one will have a reason to lambaste another. I can see as it is now, mixed children having a hard time. Specially when a dominating trait, curly hair, darker skin, almond eyes are there, and the child is in a community where they are really one for the few and far between there. And that can happen in any community. If you were a half Chinese and Irish boy in China Town and all the kids on the block were dark straight haired with very almond eyes and you were their with slight almond eyes and lighter wavy hair. You would feel slightly out of place. And you'd feel no better if you were in the burbs if when you walked out on the playground the only kids who had eyes like yours were those with Downs Syndrome. Unless you are in a vasty multicultural comminity, the kids will always suffer something. Because kids are cruel. To get higher on the pecking order they will find what they believe is an easy mark to use as a step stone. Would the Asian community really embrace Tiger Woods if he was an average ordinary Blasian(Black American Asian)?? That is a blend you see so few Haley's comet has maybe been seen more. then there are some blends you hardly know because one trait doesn't dominate any one part of the face or body. Irish and Dutch for example. You may see the Irish if there was the trait for red hair or freckles. You may see one, or the other or none. But it would be rare to see both the red hair and the freckles. I can understand why you would be more accepted in the African American community(and even there, some would knock you)but based on how dark your skin is. Most people will identify you with Black because of the more dominate Black genes. You can take the colors white and brown and mix them to come up with tan. But most will still identify tan as a member of the brown family and nowhere near white. That is why it was easier.
2006-09-04 09:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-25 15:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am "white" of Native American decent and Norwegean blood and my Ex is African American and Irish. He left while our oldest was 2 years old and I was still pregnant with our 2nd after 4&1/2 years of engagement. I have raised my daughters done their hair and taught them about many historical African Americans.
Yet while at school (I work at the same school they attend ) children ask why they are so different from each other and if I am their foster mother.
Racial critisism is every where even within ourselves. I never realized ten years ago when I fell in love with their father that our relationship would bring heartbreak to my children in the form of stares by grown women while we shop for groceries, or constantly being hit on by black men because they see my children are mixed.
Since my sepparation from their father I have not been approched by a man of any race other African American. It is as if they automatically assume that I only date black men because my children are mixed. My oldest daughter has a light complection and when the race topic is discussed she says she is Mexican. My youngest who is darker and has a little more ATTITUDE & OH NO YOU D' INT, discusses the topic she says I'm not black I'm brown.
So far at the young tender ages of 5 & 7 1/2 I believe that they are perfectly adjusted in a world that is constantly tryin to emphasize on peoples differenses instead of celebrating their uniqueness.
Good Luck on your study and God Bless!
2006-09-03 22:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by girlsm9frmgod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I am in a inter-racial relationship right now. We both have a daughter (bi-racial) together! She is so beautiful and I believe that she will always have better so that she won't have to be raised in environments that are poor or one that doesn't accept her! I believe that harassment because of ethnicity is a thing of the past I also believe that one day we will all mix so much we will eventually become one race!!!!! Everyone likes/loves a little flavor! I guess the only one thing that bothers me is that he has other bi-racial but they don't identify culturally with their African American side because their mom is a louse however, they are still sweet and now they have me to share some of the traditions and culture I grew up with together!
2006-08-28 08:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is all that matters, it's not a fix all for how others choose to behave or react when it comes to interracial couples. My husband is white and we've been married for almost 7 years, we have two boys who are both bi-racial. I know they're too young now to notice the difference, but there's always someone who points out the difference. At the time of our marriage we married in Japan, no problem still people on out base gave looks but many were ok with it. Back in the states it was a different thing...on the west coast in Cali it wasn't that big of a deal but since we recently moved to the south the looks and comments are there, but I choose to ignore it until someone steps out of line and attempts to harm my husband or children...then it's on!
2006-08-28 07:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by bad a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interracial marriages have many challenges and the smallest one is probably the color of your skin. Because of our heritage we all have different customs and these customs are what will cause problems. My husband is Hispanic and I am white he was raised Catholic and I was raised protestant. Our biggest clashes came over who was head of the house or I should say who was the boss of bosses. This is just an example. There are many other problems too. The ones on customs you compromise, can't change your skin and don't worry about what people outside the marriage say. If you are willing to work hard and love each other totally than the marriage will be great. I say this as a happily married lady of 36 years.
2006-08-28 07:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a biracial child myself (Mexican and Black). And my advice due to my experience is that you should just be yourself and not worry about what other people think.
As a young child it was hard for me to fit in. I always had my friends and my mexican side of my family totally accepted me. So in my head I am Mexican. Anyway I learned that you are not always going to please everyone so why even try. Just do what makes you happy and people will accept you for who you are.
It is true that being in a biracial relationship is hard. Because no matter what people are always going to have their opinions, but these people are not the ones who have invested their time and energy into the relationship so it shouldnt matter what they think. I think that it is alot easier for me as a young lady to deal with this because now that I am an adult it is not easy for people to get away with saying things, plus many people think that I am beautiful now, because they think that biracial people are beautiful which I am sure that you are no different. Anyway good luck, and I think that people should be together because they are in love and for no other reason whether they are blue, black, green or whatever.
2006-09-05 06:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by gm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that love is love, and no matter what colour you are that it shoudn't matter.
If the family are so narrow minded they can't love the fruit of an interacial relationship, they can go to hell, because no child deserves to be treated like they are inferior because of the colour of their skin.
In todays modern soceity there are plent of mixed race marriages, and I have know plenty of bi racial people and I treat them just like anyone else, with the respect they deserve as person.
If someone want to hate you, it should be because you have actually done something wrong and being born, or looking a certain just doesnt count.
Take care
2006-09-02 20:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by christie_is_the_name 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am an interracial child,now 35. My parents have been married for 40 years(in 2 days).My father is black and my mother is white. I can honestly say I have the best of all worlds!I don't see color in people,I see their character.Lets be real here...there are plenty of screwed up black,white,brown and yellow people out there. So lets focus on the quality of ones character before seeing ones color.
I honestly haven't had any real drama in my life as far as being biracial.Growing up was normal I had no identity problems and had a huge array of friends of all races!!I've dated men of all different races and quite frankly men are men.
2006-09-02 04:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ali 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband is Mexican I am caucasian. We have a 10 year old son...he is very handsome. I might be biased, but I think interracial children are much prettier than children of one race. At first my family had problems with my marriage and having an interracial child, but they love me so have come around over the years. My son never has any problems with anyone. It is exceptable now in most places to be interracial. You are always going to have the stupid people who think it is wrong. Believe me there is nothing wrong with my son, or my marriage.
Good luck with your studies!
2006-08-28 08:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋