Ladies have u ever had a spouse or boyfriend not wanting you to suceed?

Question

I work at an online university and i recruit students. Sometimes the women that want to become students are married. When i call for women their husband sometimes answers the phone. Majority of these husbands are pissed when i tell them that their wives requested information about earning a degree online. One husband hung up on me when i told him, another one told me that she was not interested even though i have never even spoke to his wife. Ladies have u ever had a spouse like this if so how did u handle it?

Answer 1

I am in this situation right now... I have been wanting to go back to school, and my husband has not been supportive, so I gave up on the thought of me doing better for myself. just reciently an ex boyfriend told me that he thought I could make something of myself, and get out of my office cube... so I took the inititive to go to the local college and sign up for some courses... I told my husband I did this and the responce he had was "well... who's going to make dinner" no WOW that's great or anything.. break my heart... I think he wants to be the bigger bread winner... and I truly believe he is afraid I can support myself! and maybe I will and be happy doing it :)

Answer 2

Hi there,
i have had a few husbands, and i am not bragging, but i know my best friend who also had two husbands and the both of them were jealous of her having anything outside of "them" YUCK..IT IS TERRIBLE, if fact, her husbands both resented me, the present one still does, and for no logical reason,
as= I never encouraged my friend to do anything that was against the marriage, or dishonorable to the husbands, I never ask her to go out for a drink, or to go to a functioni without her mate. I only would go to exercise class twice a week, in exercise clothes, in late afternoon for no more than hour total, nothing to interfere with marriage etc, as hubby was at work, yet he hated that,,
and when we went to adult school to learn a class on positive thinking, he hit the roof,,
The husband she has now won't even let her use the computer, and she lives far away from me, and she is so lonely, her kids are grown, she is at home all day,
I guess that speaks for itself, CAN YOU IMAGINE, HER NOT KNOWING HOW TO USE THE COMPUTER, AND YET SHE IS HOME ALL DAY ALONE,? i almost hate him,
AS my friend is very ourtgoing, loves life, art beauty, etc, and if ever anyone could use a computer to fill in many lonely gaps of her life it would be her,,

SO I DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHY A SPOUSE WOULD BE LIKE THAT, OTHER THAN SELFISH, AND TO DENY ANY ONE YOU LOVE, A SPOUSE OR FAMILY MEMBER the chance to get more education, and have accomplishments of their own, is not an act of love, it is an act of sabatouge, it makes me furious,

The closest thing i had to that was, i was married to a deputy sheriff, he was good at the job after twenty two years, etc, i was in Real Estate, and had been sucessful, yet when it came time to our life and choices, he did not trust me with my experience, and my knowledge meant nothing, he only wanted me to be a "pretty face" AND NOT USE MY MIND, i was very offended, as he insisted on making decisions totally where he had zero experience, and of course the results were bad, and he never would look farther than looks, body, etc for my worth. and i was not loved, because he didnt even know who i really was,, so i guess he would fall into that cateragory.. i divorced him, and i am still unmarried and will keep it that way,, unless i meet a man, who will let me be who i am,, and not try to hold me back

Answer 3

First, the online courses are bit uneasy for some to know its for real. Second, husbands have their wives right where they want them.

Answer 4

No, I'm glad to say my husband supports me in my decisions and we discuss things openly. I feel bad for the women you mention though, one's spouse is supposed to be supportive, not undermining.

Answer 5

Kill them all! What kind of men they could be if they want to be superior by keeping their women down?

Answer 6

Nope never had one like that if so I don't think we would have lasted very long.