My sister is a professional dancer (Ballet, not a stripper). She's a good dancer, has been professional for 2-3 years, and is still young...But, the company that she works for often "runs out of money" or makes them dance without insurance. She also keeps running into trouble in New York where she lives. My parents also recently found out she had an orgy. How can I make her realize that she needs to do some serious thinking about what she wants out of life in a way that she can relate? She's 22, I'm 23 with a college degree and career. I don't want her to feel that I'm trying to be her parent. We're sisters and I don't want to be too hard on her cuz our parents definitely are.
2006-08-28 07:36:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For the record, she'll be 22 in Dec.....I've been through way more things in life than she has...My dad and step-mom have pampered, spoiled, and sheltered her for 22 years. I'd be here all day with my life story, but for the record, I'm a hell of alot more mature than her, or most people my age. I just want to help her see that orgies and boozing it up every weekend is not the way to live. Age has nothing to do with this
2006-08-28 07:50:56 · update #1
this is the kind of stuff people need to realize on their own. No matter how much you try to tell them, they wont listen. Just cuz shes not as serious with her life as you are doesnt mean she isnt happy. I think you should find out if she is happy with the way her life is now and if it is you should be happy for her as well.
2006-08-28 07:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by kitcatt143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't nag her about it. Do it in a day to talk to her. Spend time with her. Like go to the mall, lunch or a movie. (or all of those things). Then just start to talk to her about her life, and be sweet about it. tell her that she should realize she's not a teenager anymore, and mom and dad can't always pick up the peices. tell her what could happen with things like what your parents found out she did. tell her everything she should know, on how to live a peaceful, healthy, strong, stable life.
2006-08-28 07:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're thoroughly precise to have an issue with this. She did no longer postpone her end of the best purchase in staying at your place and he or she is taking earnings of you. you could tell her your expenses have long gone up in view that she has beginning residing there and you will't discover the money for it to any extent further and he or she must be out by utilising the top of the month. you will possibly no longer have the capacity to stay away from a considerable conflict, yet this si the only way you will get her out.
2016-10-01 00:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's over 21.
The thing that bothers me is the Dance (Ballet).
She needs to be very serious about giving her
talent proper exposure. She's settling in. I would
look into dancing in other countries to.
The Orgy thing is scary. The risk for one. People
LIE.
2006-08-28 08:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her anything, she has to realize this on her own. One thing to do is always be there for her to talk to, be a good listener and try not to judge her, that way she will always come to you. The more you try to preach to someone the more they feel they are doing the right thing.
2006-08-28 07:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by camaroconvertible 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her and watch over her - but know that all decisions regarding her life and her choices are solely up to her. The best thing you can do is be a good friend and be there when times get tough.
2006-08-28 07:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a sister to her and do your best to support the good things that she's done in her life so far. By being pushy can also ruin your close relationship you have w/her.
2006-08-28 07:39:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ehr you dont want to see her throw her life away and try to help her with her problems if you cant get through to her try harder. if she doesnt listen she may just learn her lesson the hard way and there is nothing you can do about that.
2006-08-28 07:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your sisters choice you should not interfere if she is dancing without insurance its a risk she is willing to take she is doing it cause she wants to its her choice her body and her job
2006-08-28 07:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Try to have a good sister to sister talk with her.
2006-08-28 07:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kiara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋