I am not quite sure of what to think. I always thought monogomy was the BASIS OF MARRIAGE! But then again it would be a new sexual experience, not to mention a new man for the first time in years. Anyone ever been in this position (so to speak)??
2006-08-28 07:33:07 · 22 answers · asked by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it. It will not be good for the marriage. If your marriage was based on sex and doing different things, I guess it would be okay but when you enter a marriage like normal.. it will end up badly.
Plus, he might be asking you to do it just to see if you are willing to be with another man and then turn it around on you.
**EDIT**
Also from your avatar it looks like you have kids... don't drag them into a mess.
2006-08-28 07:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by curiositykillz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow!1 Ive been put in that position but instead of a guy, my husband wanted a girl. I mean there's nothing wrong with it as long as u have trust in eachother and u both r prepared. I did it and for me it was a whole new experience. It was awesome. but not every couple is down to earth like that. But if that's he's fantasy then fulfill it. It's spice up the marriage!! Good luck
2006-08-28 14:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by LADYQUEEN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would urge you not to do it. While it may add some spice to your sex life, it will also add guilt. And what if mr. xtra comes by while hubby is at work and wants to have a little fun? How easy will it be to give in since you've already done it before. Ask your husband just what he is looking for. Does he just want to watch you and another guy, does he want to be watched, does he want to do stuff with the other guy, does he want the other guy to do stuff to him? Without knowing the answers to these questions, you really can't know where he is coming from. My own idea is that he has some latent same-sex attraction that he wants to experience. Another problem is, he may go ahead and experience it without you.
2006-08-28 15:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have had that fantasy for years. I am a straight male ( a wee bit curious but firmly heterosexual)...
...It is also my wife's number one fantasy.
That said, we have decided not to pursue while our kids are still young and at home (at least another 10 years).
Last night we had our first venture into role playing. What a great time.
He is likely straight. Just wants to see you in action. Could be he's a voyeur (as I also am), could be he is setting you up for another threesome with a woman. Could be he is looking for an excuse to cheat.
Could be he wants you to enjoy.
Let us know
2006-08-28 15:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I think. Is he not pleasing you in bed? Maybe he finished too soon?
Or, he is going to get you to do it with another guy, then try to get you to agree to that guys woman to join you later so that he can get you into full swinging. Once you agree to the guy, then he will use that as his "well, you did it how come I can't"
But if you are into it, and looking for something ne w cause your sex life isn't that great I would go ahead. Better then saying no and having him cheat on you. At least if you are there you can set some rules.
2006-08-28 14:48:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea for your marriage, sweetie....... I wouldn't want my husband to be with another lady, I can't understand why he would want to see you with another man..... sorta sick, in my opinion. Marriage is an expression of love, trust, and caring. Marriage is special. If he doesn't know that, oh, well. In any event don't do what you are uncomfortable doing. In you shoes, I'd dump the guy, but then, maybe I'm too conservative. It would make me vomit to think of my husband loving another woman --- absolutely, and positively vomit....
2006-08-28 15:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of men would like to watch their wife/girlfriend with another man. Your both adults, If you think your relationship is strong enought to handle it go for it.
2006-08-30 08:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Farmboy45696 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be questioning his sexuality. Most men want a girl involved in this situation not a man. And it's strange that he brought it up and not you. I would question how he knows this other guy and I would definitely be checking his interenet activity.
2006-08-28 14:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me that is just weird, unless your husband is bi or gay and is just realy scared to come out. It is a way for him to explore without feeling so bad. I would say no though no matter what. Its not good for a marriage.
2006-08-28 14:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by missjuly15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do it if u r not comfortable with it. Does he like guys isn't this jus a little wierd. I have heard of guys liking several women but men with thier wifes. A Little strange.
2006-08-28 14:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Happi @ss 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋