are we all just in love with the idea of love?
is that why we choose to stay in relationships even if it sucks big time?
or is it the need to care for someone that's making us stay?
2006-08-28 07:22:10 · 8 answers · asked by Inquirer 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes, we are in love with the idea of love , but when it sucks big time we have to ask ourselves the question , who do you love more ,yourself or your unsatisfactory partner?
if you dont love yourself as much as him or dont feel that you deserve to be happy , then maybe its not just that you are staying in the relationship because you need to care for someone, deep down you are trying to fullfill your need to care for yourself.
2006-08-28 09:30:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the person are they a clingy can't be alone type or do they just like the good times, no self esteem can't imagine anyone but the crazy there w/ will ever love them or if they can't please the crazy how can they hope to make someone else happy or maybe its a money thing they like having the extras and are willing to put up with the crazy for it so they don't have to live in the ghetto and eat mac & cheese all the time???
2006-08-28 14:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by barbie89032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is just an idea of love. I have been physically ill from love. I have thrown up at the thought of the person. I don't think it is just an idea. People stay in bad relationships because of fear. Fear of being alone, fear of poverty, fear of dating again, fear of the other person, fear of their own emotions.
Love is such a real thing and I hope that all people get to feel it. I hear that the love for a child is greater than the love of a spouse. I can't even comprehend it!
2006-08-28 14:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Metacoma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just this idea of we all R in love with the idea of love, that makes us stay... I guess, as otherwise in relationships no one has time & need to care for any one.
2006-08-28 14:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what I say! We fall in love with the idea of love. They don't allow themselves to follow into a relationship, but believe they love. If you allow your way to follow into a relationship, you can stop at anytime and there may not be as big of a pain coming from the break-up.
2006-08-28 14:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by otter7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience i think the reason we stay is because we hope that things will get better. Sometimes it does get better if BOTH of you are willing to make it work. But if your not happy then there is really no need to stay. Sometimes you have to be selfish and think about your own happiness rather then that other person.
2006-08-28 14:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cheesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's what's wrong with the whole thing. love and loving is a feeling. we don't need our brains to process this. it's exactly when we use our heads that love begins to have a reason. and when we stay in a relationship for a reason.....then love just becomes a habit or an excuse until we find ourselves in a quagmire of emotions that nags us to go and stay.
but when we love with our hearts it transcends. it looks beyond faults and is unconditional.
2006-08-28 14:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by babytalk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say it's just the need of "staying"
we associate "stability" with healt, harmony, hapiness...
2006-08-28 14:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by marumaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋