she's 18, and not married.
2006-08-28 07:20:36 · 23 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ask her if she believes life begins at the delivery of the baby ...
or does it begin at conception?
i fear God, but i shoot animals for food...
as he said i could do...
but i won't kill a baby if i have to die.
2006-08-28 17:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think abortion in wrong but it is your friends choice.
As a 17 year old going through an unplanned pregnancy, this is the advice I give to you as her friend....She has a lot to deal with and alot of things runing through her head right now and the last thing she needs is to have everyone around her telling her how to handle this. So the best thing you can do is make sure she is fully informed of ALL of her options (abortion, adoption and parenting) from an unbiased source(s) and even though it will be hard for you, listen to her and help her work her way through it with out pushing your opinon on too much but preferably not at all.
2006-08-28 07:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by beautifulwingedone 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First...make her look at the photo of babies after they have been ripped .....litteraly CUT UP AND RIPPED APART from an abortion. Next...maybe have her talk to someone who concidered abortion...but now had their baby and knows life is better with that child. Let her know that she is not alone in it...you are there. Family...other friends...anything like that. People will help. People end up feeling obligated to help a single mother...They would respect her more for being a single mother than a mother who murder her child from abortion. Lastly....if she really doesnt want the baby...dont abort...give it up for adoption. Its better than abortion. Someone out there wants a baby....
2006-09-01 04:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that none of the circumstances of her life are her baby's fault, and her baby does not deserve to die. Take a look at this information and consider sharing some of it with your friend:
Photos of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
A Four-Minute, Must-See Video on Abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php
Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org
2006-08-29 05:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it's my point of view that I would only intrude with my opinion, vociferiously, if it was a family member. But she is a friend, and not married so probably you feel she doesn't have a lot of people to count on right now for support and that's all you can do. I'd tell her you're there no matter what her decision is but also what you'd do in that position.
This is one of those times when it's hard to not impose your values. Is she a Christian or religious? Tell her to talk to her religious official, or at least Planned Parenthood (if you have that down there.)
Thank you for caring.
2 days later: Have you thought of telling her you'd take the baby?
2006-08-28 09:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is crazy I have a friend who is 8 months pregnant right now when she first found out she was pregnant she wanted to have an abortion too but I told her exactly how I felt while still being considerate of her feelings in the end she decided to keep it and have it now I'm well on my way to being an AUNT!?!?!?!
2006-08-28 07:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
some times when you have a abortion
later in life when you decide you want to have a baby
you can't or it take you years before you get Pregnant
there are all of women who want children who can never had them
Adoption will be the answers to someone pray of a baby
i believe this baby is here for a reason
this baby it some of God Work we all are.
I Glad my mom didn't abort me .she have me and give me a chance in life .
2006-08-29 04:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
refer her to the nearest Crisis Pregnancy Center. They offer conseling on abortion and the after effects of it, materials on abortions and how they harm the mother, baby clothes, baby formula, baby supplies, infomation on pregnancy, referalls to doctors and the like. They are a good way of talking your friend out of an abortion. They are confidential and are very caring. Be sure to check on the address that you may find online. Some are not correct use to recent moves by the centers. You can probably find their new addresses in the phone book. Hope this helps.
2006-08-28 07:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Charis 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not your choice. It's hers.
Be a sounding board for her. Talk to her about the pros and cons of all her options. Explore the options of keeping the baby, giving the baby up for adoption and having an abortion in a NON-JUDGEMENTAL way. If you get judgemental or preachy with her then she is going to tune you out.
2006-08-28 07:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can tell her what you think, let her know how many thousands of loving families are out there praying for a baby to adopt, and you can pray for her and her unborn baby, but in the end she is the only one who can make the decision.
Is there a chance she would go to a crisis pregnancy clinic and look at an ultrasound of her baby? Sometimes having that information helps with the decision.
2006-08-28 07:25:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kathryn A 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you cant talk her out of it , its her life, which by the way at 18 hasnt even begun yet. You need to let this girl make her own decisions , she has to live with the outcome not you, all you can do as a friend is listen and support whatever decision she makes no matter what yoyur opinion is. oh and by the way to the moron abortion is not murder sometimes it is necessary.
2006-08-28 07:26:06 · answer #11 · answered by kez 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋