Guy number one is so sweet and has a great heart and really loves me for who I am. Guy number two is just as wonderful. They both care about me a lot and would do anything for me, but I can't go on leading this lifestyle, I'm at the point in my life, I'm ready to settle down, get married, and have kids. I really shouldn't have been doing this, but I really need some advice.
2006-08-28 07:20:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-28 07:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by tvman30044 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously you blessed with something honey. Take a long moment and sit all alone and think... and think... and determine which one will offer you a better life in the future. Which one will sit down in the floor and make cooing noises at your new baby, or have water balloon fights in the house with your 5 year old, the one who will turn down a day at the lake on jet skis with all his buddies because you decided to cook a nice meal and go to the park with the kids... That man in your head is the one you need in your heart forever.
2006-08-28 07:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ ღAngelicaღ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple really! Decide whom u love more, dump him and marry the other.
Another way is decide out of the guys who loves you more and marry him.
Pl read "Suitable boy" by Vikram Seth. The heroine was in the same predicament and solves the problem admirably.
for marriage you need to use both heart and head, head a bit more than the heart.
2006-08-28 09:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheyuta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello you there..
i fully understand the dilemma you are into...
however you need to sit down and reflect... think about their 2 characters, who really gives much joy, affection, patience, love. who show it to you clearly. you need to choose the one with whom you feel will be able to be a good father as well as a husband. the one whom you are mostly certain will not turn out to be different after marriage.
try to talk to both of them about you want in life, about how you see your future... as the one who will fit you will be the one who totally share the same opinoin as you dear.
tou nedd to have a look at the 2 guys surroundings, what you hear good and bad about them...
then you decide whom suits you the most.
but when you choose never revert on your decision. just choose the best and close the stoy right there...
all the best
aure
sorry for any miss spellings
2006-08-28 07:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by aure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, if you have to ask the people on Yahoo what you hold do in this situation, then you ARE NOT READY to marry either of these guys! And have either even asked you? It sounds as though you are indecisive and afraid to make a decision of any type. This is not the mark of a mature individual.
2006-08-28 07:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do they know about each other? -- If not start there. You have to decide who you can "stand" the best. Love wears out, the best "partner" for the long haul of raising kids is the best choice. Money, money, money - it takes money to raise kids. Are you ever happy? For a moment. Will you always want the one you let go? Always. Good Luck!
2006-08-28 07:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Freya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the comparable situation My one boyfriend who i presumed grew to become into suited dumped me out of nowhere and it took me constantly to recover from him. once I met my contemporary boyfriend i nonetheless had emotions for my ex. It took me some month into the relationship to recover from him. Now i recognize that my contemporary boyfriend is suited for me and my ex grew to become into no the place close to suited. So i think of you will possibly desire to stay which incorporate your contemporary boyfriend. provide it a while and spend lots of time with him and you gets over him in awhile. it may seem such as you probable won't be in a position to enable him go yet you are able to. wish this helped=]
2016-11-05 23:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by bulman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to resolve this---if they are both equally to you then you could chose the first guy you started dating---but, don't go on like this--if one found out about the other, you might loose them both...
2006-08-28 07:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with one of the other answers. You're not ready for marriage. If you have to "pick one" then you're not in love with either of them, or you are too immature to know what to do.
don't marry either. keep dating if you want, but don't get married until you're sure.
2006-08-28 07:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick the one you like the best; and let the other one go and find the girl who likes only him!! Don't string him along just because you are too selfish to let him go! You can't have your cake and eat it too!!
2006-08-28 08:00:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump them both and start fresh. They are not good enough for you or else you would have already chosen one of them. Don't "settle" for eaither of them.
2006-08-28 07:30:59 · answer #11 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋