they were only together for about 5m & then she kicked him to the curb. my son has gotten re married & so has she. but i'm not allowed to see my two grandsons. so i have only seen them twice in the last five yrs. my son still wont talk to me because she is angry at me (no i dont know why) & she is just being nasty for no reson. so should i take them to court to have visistation rights instituteded? i have tried talking to my son to no avail..
2006-08-28 07:16:57 · 16 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on the state you are in whether your would have grandparents rights. Most states do not make this available when the children are with a parent.
You did nothing wrong, but somehow everyone is blaming you. You are probably the only blameless one (except for the children) in this whole thing.
As much as it must hurt, you may have to just wait around until your son comes around to you. I don't see that anything could be gained by talking to your ex-daughter-in-law. She sounds freaking nuts to me.
Good luck and God bless you.
2006-08-28 07:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things you can do first, to try to fix this situation before going to the courts. First you can try to find out why is your son, and ex daughter in law is so angry with you, and what may you have done to make them feel this way. When you go to them you must go with a peaceful attitude truly trying to resolve this conflict. If you really want resolution you must be humble, if you can't do it for yourself think of doing it for the sake of seeing your grandchildren. Sometimes for the sake of peace you allow yourself to be the party in error even if you know within yourself you are not. Sometimes it works I hope you get this resolved without having to go to the court system I have grandchildren of my own and I know how hard it is now to be able to see them and be united with them. Grandma's mean alot to our children especially when they are sweet as sugar. Wish you the best
2006-08-28 08:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joyous Dawn in the morning 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
i am not totally sure i understand, do you mean your x-boyfriend ran off with your sons wife five years ago? While you were with him and your son married to Her? they just took off together? AND your son.. remarried someone else, ? AND the wife that ran of is the mother of your grandsons,? or is the new wife? AND WHO IS ANGRY WITH YOU, AND WHY.. you were also hurt,,
i really do not know what you meant, i have read it about four times,, please explain,.
It is awful you cant see your grandsons, that is cruel, and it is unfair to them, they need a grandmother, that helps in many ways with kids, they get all kinds of good love, and guidance from grandparents,, i do hoope you can resolve this,
court, will only make more resentment, and you cant force yourself on the children,, it has to be willing on all parts or it will destroy any chance of a "normal" RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM, AND YOUR SON.
What is up with your son? WHY is he treating you so bad, from what you explained you were also a victim,,
i am not clear on who is or isnt with who,,pls explain
i hope to hear from you
2006-08-28 07:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dated a guy who then went off with your ex-daughter in law? This sounds like one those horrific things that you see on Sally Jessy Raphael. No idea why your son wont talk to you, but I do think you need to get your life in some kind of order before you start trying to see your grandchildren.
2006-08-28 07:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People try to control others by their actions, which is exactly what is going on here. It is generally a control issue - one of which the grandkids now suffer from. You can try to get visitation rights, it will be a long, expensive and bumpy road that may make a lot of people angry. You maybe need to let it all go. Holding onto something that you have no control over only will breed discontent. Let your grandkids know you love them, are here for them and eventually they will be able to make their own decisions, trust me, kids are not stupid.
2006-08-28 07:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More details? It's a bit confusing. Are they your biological grandkids? I only ask because you said they were only together for 5 Months but there are 2 kids? There are grandparents rights.
And what do you mean your SON won't talk to you because SHE(?) is angry? Is he blaming you for her being angry?
2006-08-28 07:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by nooodle_ninja 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, what a wild story! I don't think grandparents have a right under the law to see their grandchildren. I could be wrong though.
2006-08-28 07:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done absolutely all that you can do to get her to talk to you and hash this out, then yes...I would take her to court. I mean correct me if I'm wrong, but you're not the one who did anything wrong here...she is. She's bitter about something and it's probably something she did with your ex boyfriend.
2006-08-28 07:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for your family. You guys need to go on Maurey Povich. He is trained to deal with these things. Let him sort it out. If you go on the show in the month of Sept you get 5 free paternity test.
2006-08-28 07:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by Husker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex in-laws had to do this. Their are rights for visitation as a grandparent, therefore if I were you, I'd go to a lawyers immediately and have them sue her for visitation.
2006-08-28 07:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋