My girlfriend and I are getting married, but she had sex with 4 guys before me, and she was with with each of them for years and i cant get it out of my head the thing that she was having sex probably thousands of times and frankly i didn't have sex much, i only did it with 1 girl for 3 times.
I love her so much, but i am so hurt about that and it is a big deal to me that she did that.
I know she only had sex with 4 guys and she is good, but i mean she was doing it with them many times.
can u please advise me or tell me how it can be ok to accept that?
2006-08-28 07:10:09 · 15 answers · asked by csimax007 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PLEASE! any girl who is gonna make fun answers, just dont answer and move to the next question. i need an advice not insults!
2006-08-28 07:15:53 · update #1
Think of how you would feel if she was not in your life, if your o.k. with it let her go. If you fall apart and can think of nothing that does not remind you of her, keep her and don't ever bring up the past. Like they say the past is the past and soon forgotten. My husband asked about my past, but I told him it's mine not his and he never asked again, we been married 20 years. good-luck
2006-08-28 07:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by suwanneeflower 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are insecure about this now, recognize that it is going to take time for you to feel better about the whole situation. Just have sex with her all the time, until you both forget about her 4 other lovers. Trust me, a girl having had 4 partners is NOT that much. Try not to think about it, and when your psyche heals you may even be grateful that she knows what she's doing in the sack.
2006-08-28 14:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by akristel2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here man. She is marrying you for a reason. It doesnt matter how many guys she slept with. You are going to be her last (hopefully). It was her past. Just think...you have the best sex with her because she is marrying you man! Nowadays 4 guys really are not that much. Some girls sleep with 4 guys in one night, so think about that son!!
2006-08-28 14:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Solja Boi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not even count how many before my husband. It does not matter at all. Anything that happened before you two got together, is in the past and that is where it needs to remain. I don't think you would be having these issues if the tables were turned. More experience = better sex. Think about it. :)
2006-08-28 14:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really relate to this. I had the exact same problem with my husband's past--even though he had been with fewer people than I had. I know it makes no sense, but I couldn't stand the thought of him having sex with another girl in the past ... even though it was before we ever met. I really struggled with this issue, and I let it consume my thoughts for a while. On t.v., I would wonder if a girl looked like one of his exes, or if he was reminded of them. In retrospect, it was stupid and completely illogical. I caused a lot of problems because of my jealousy over these past girlfriends, and now I realize that it was for nothing. Please do something to get past it, because no good can come of these feelings. Just know that she's with YOU now and that she chose you, and the past does not matter. Really, even if she had been with many men, it shouldn't matter--either you love her NOW or you don't, and you have to accept everything that comes with her. good luck
2006-08-28 14:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it's okay for you to have had a previous partner... would you feel better if you'd both slept with the same number of people?
She had sex with these guys before she got involved with you, so how can you possibly be hurt by it? It's not like she did that to harm you.
Let it go... or if you can't, do NOT marry the poor girl. You'll punish her for the rest of her life for her history.
2006-08-28 14:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you obviously should be getting married if your still hung up on this issue. You're better off dumping her now then going ahead with the marriage, only to get a divorce latter on because you let this past history tear you up. You are just going to end up bitter with this girl.
2006-08-28 14:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no need for you to worry, you should be grateful in a sort of way, she has already sewed her oats, which means she must be pretty confident about herself. . so the way i see it . your being jealous that you weren't able to have your oats sewed. She is experienced and there is nothing wrong with that, Now, you said she was your girlfriend, so what is the difference here? We all have past if we didn't we wouldn't know what we wanted out of a relationship. this is part of learning about ourselves and what we are looking for. Let it stay in the past. look to the future.
2006-08-28 14:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well if you guys are in love that was in the past. she loves you now and wants only to be with you, you have to remember that. we all have sex now adays before getting married, so you have to get over that and be happy and just forget about the past. and move on. good luck
2006-08-28 14:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by mommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will drive you crazy, but you have 3 options. Option 1.) Forgive and forget, Option 2.) Get mental help and Option 3.) Dump her slutty @ss!! Good luck.
2006-08-28 14:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋