Affection during pregnancy?

Question

I have a strange question. I am 4 months pregnant, never had the greatest sex drive to begin with, but now that I am pregnant, I don't have one hardly at all. I love my husband, and I love affection and I love sex! Now my poor husband is telling me he misses me touching him, and giving him affection, and sex. In my head I WANT to do these things....and I try to tell him, i really want to. but he gets bummed out....BEFORE you all start saying he shouldnt be this way, he should understand im pregnant and so on....please realize that he is NOT pressuring me, and it is NOT causing any problems, I can just see that he misses our intimacy, as do I...and I want to know when that will come back. people say in your second trimester..I am 4 months, and no change yet. Am I alone? hellppppp!!!

Answer 1

Usualy it comes back towards the middle to mid end of pregnancy. Watch out for Post Pardom Depression though and stay on top of it. If it doenst come back a couple months after the baby comes see your doctor and ask about options, you can also ask now, but your body is going through a lot and no sex drive is compeletly normal. It may be good to talk to you husband and even have him go to the doctor with you or look this subject up online. The more he knows the more he will understand and be patient... I know how you feel. I have 5 children, the youngest is now 9 months old.. just hang in there! It will get better ;)

Answer 2

Once you are pregnant, there are physical changes during pregnancy and for a long time after delivery that make sex just not something most women want. Also, during pregnancy, it can be painful, even though your spouse is gentle and the fetus is well protected. You are not alone. And neither is your husband. Also, while pregnant, it takes a lot to get going to get to the sex part... more romance, more cuddling, etc. There is nothing wrong with having sex so long as you are cleared by your OBGYN to have it and not in your last trimester. I say have fun with it. Talk with your husband and let him know it may not be as frequent because of all the changes you are going through, but ask him to be patient. Have fun by finding new ways to enjoy him and touch him. And ask him to help you feel close without the "sex" with maybe some cuddling, massaging and just some special one-on-one time. Once the baby gets here, you'll be missing all that one-on-one time and all the affection. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well I'm not pregnant but I struggle with depression which diminishes my sex drive very much and I begin to feel horrible about, I understand where you are coming from really. When I was pregnant though it came and went, early in my pregnancy I was a nimpho... :) then in the middle I couldn't care less, but at the end of pregnancy WATCH OUT... I was ALL over my husband all the time, must have been scary for him some crazed naked lady with a giant belly jumping all over him... I honestly understand how you feel and it's hard but I've noticed when I don't feel pressured (and I mean the pressure I put on myself because my husband doesn't pressure me either) and just relax it's much easier for me, sometimes even if I don't think I want to I'll get all girly and sappy and light candles and stuff and dress in my pretty nighty things I start to realize how much I actually want him..it WILL get better...just a side effect I guess and I'd say just relax about it... :) Good Luck!

Answer 4

See this is what I don't understand... so many women are like you? Why am I different? I am 25 weeks and I have wanted sex along... maybe it's because my husband is in the NAVY and he is gone so much. Don't make yourself do it, but TRY thinking of things you two have never done! Maybe this will turn you on and you will want it. Ever since I've been pregnant my husband and I have been trying new things... It's great! maybe add some food? Like whipped cream or flavored lubericant! Let him spend some time on YOU!

Answer 5

haha... NOO... ur not the only one. im 19 and im 3 months pregnant with my first and i used to be absolutely crazii for sex. but now all my husband wants to do is have sex ALL the time and its not happening for me. im just not turned on right now and i even talked to my doctor and he said it was completely normal. but for me in the veery beginnnign of my pregnancy sex with my husband was amazing but now its like ehh do we have to? lol... so im hoping it comes back but my doctor said it would it just takes time because of your hormones and everyones are different.

Answer 6

well thats normal you arent crazy after you have the baby you used be back to normal not all women have strong sex drives.