ok posted a few hours ago and thanks to all those who replied...thing is im 18 in one month and i KNOW he's not a pedophile and has NEVER had any cruel intentions on me. he and i both have our own comitments with work and we dont spend that much time together. actually he was helping me with work experience and we kind of grew closer together through that. and now i wanted to spend more time with him, but not just as a student/advisor style...i just posted because i was curious about what people might think about age difference. and im not foolish, i KNOW when im dealing with weirdos and he is not one!
2006-08-28 06:55:42 · 27 answers · asked by xoxox 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
by dating i mean to say spending more time with not having sex with. the age gap might be huge and i know that some people just stick around for sex and if not there's rejection for sure. but i think that he's profesional enough to know that he cant sleep with someone under 18.
2006-08-29 00:37:04 · update #1
As a successful busineman who is in his late twenties. All I would ever want from an 18yr old is that a**. You have nothing to offer in terms of conversation , life experience or companship.
Can you say TIP DRILL
2006-08-28 09:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong.
Even if it's legal by age, you have to ask yourself how much you really have in common with this guy.
I mean, maybe he's got the mentality of a 17 year old, who knows?
Or maybe you're a bit mature and he's a bit immature and you are meeting in the middle somewhere.
The problem is that right now, you ARENT legal so that alone makes it wrong.
But just from observation, in today's generation there is a HUGE gap of life experience between 18-27..
From 18-21 you will become a different person
From 21-25 you will become a different person.
From 25-30 you will become yet a different person.
The issues facing a 17 year old and the issues facing a 27 year old are different.
How are you going to understand when he complains about the mortgage being late? How is he going to understand that you can't hang out because you have a book report due?
I know you think he's not a wierdo and perhaps he's really not but just remember that even though you may not be foolish, you are young and sometimes when we really want something, we tend to see it the way we want to see it rather than the way it really is.
Also, in relationships with such a wide age gap the younger person tends to make jabs at the older one making them feel not cool or hip and the older one ends up being condescending to the younger one. Even if you're not aware you're doing it, it does happen over time...
In the end you have to do what is best for you, but my advice is to find someone your own age.
2006-08-28 15:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you know what, it is perfectly okay to date an older man and just happens to be great if he is a doctor... there is way to many peoples out there that are so full of them selves when it comes to age and if you and him like each other that is all there is to it...
I was plucked from the cradle and it was awesome, had a fantsatic relationsip with her and the age difference was much greater than you and the doc... I was 18 her 30
I hope the two of you will be happy
2006-08-30 18:21:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where that one guy got his info. I NO STATE is the age of consent under the age of 16 to have sex with an adult! You are almost 18 and there is nothing wrong with dating someone that is older than you...as long as he doesn't have a cane!!
2006-08-28 14:14:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am not out to put you down...but here's away to think about it(trust me i been in relationship with an age difference that big, and i was younger then you) but where;s what knocked some since in to me. Just think when you were born...her learned to ride a bike, talk, got potty trained, went to school...etc....Then you reached that aged and learned more. Then he learned to date and etc...then your age came along. just remember there will always be something weird about for awhile, ladies mature faster then men. If you are doing okay, and you are happy..take it up as much as you can...
here's another thing that might help. You guys are going to enter a time in your lives, that help the both of you. You will be going in to your early twenties, and he will be entering his early thirties...this make it easier on both of you. You both will be entering a new time in your life, you'll just feel comfortable. Just remember to maintain your individuality.
2006-08-28 14:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Punk_Rockin' Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a 27 year old man who knows more than you do in life right now...he could be married as far as anyone knows or has other issues that he may never tell you about. Just stick with people in your own age group till you have lived life and learn from life. This man has been there done that and you have not.
2006-08-28 14:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd be careful. Not that you're foolish, but I'm wondering about the guy's intentions. Why does he look to underage teen girls to find peopel to date? Is he insecure? Is he threatened by women his own age? He's got some deep-seated power/secuity issues going on that he isn't aware of.
2006-09-01 11:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a month and then date him if you want too!!! Just remember he is 10 years older than you. And he knows much more than you do. Just relax for a month. Have him take you out for a wonderful birthday night!
PS~ Just don't have sex with him until he puts a wedding ring on your finger!
2006-08-28 14:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to be 18!
2006-08-28 17:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by puma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine! If you are going to be 18 in one month then don't worry about it!! As long as your mature enough and you guys feel that your on the same level, then its perfectly fine!!Good luck with your relationship! I hope it works out for the both of you!
2006-08-28 14:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋