it seems some men expect you to "put out" whether you're enjoying it or not
2006-08-28 06:54:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have sometimes but I am assured by my husband that he would prefer it if I was into it as well. I've recently understood how important sex is to a man, and have tried harder to make it happen, I put sexier underwear on before he comes home from work, dress a bit better and put a bit of make-up on, make sure the house is tidy and the kids friend's have gone home. This sounds old fashioned but I'm then in a mood of expectation when he comes through the door, and he knows it! Things have got better and I don't need to pretend any more.
2006-08-29 04:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes....I think most women have. And sometimes, I get into it halfway through, which is cool.
I think it can be a problem for some women. It all depends on the individual. If a woman is particularly sensitive, or has had abusive experiences with a man, then it can make her feel used and reinforce the difficulty
If the woman is happy with her man and thinks a lot of him and wants to please him, I think it is OK.
But no woman should do it JUST to please a man, only if she wants to for her own reasons.
2006-08-28 06:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a male point of view of course often we do not fancy it but do it anyway, sex cannot always be at the best time for both parties. However i feel behind your question you are feeling a little bit used and doubtful about your partner hopefully it will pass.
2006-08-28 07:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - cause my husband respects me too much and he wouldn't enjoy it if he knew I was just waiting for it all to be over ( I am crap at pretending! Either that or I refuse to. Likely a thin line between the two!) He is, however, veeeeeery good at getting me in the mood...............
2006-09-01 01:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep! when your married some of them tend to think of you as their property and get pissed off if they dont get it enough. It would seem sometimes it does not matter if u dont want it or it does nothing for you as long as they get off. Of course with pressure its just another chore. Not all guys are like this i know but for the ones that are, this is not the way to get wot u want.
2006-08-28 07:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sam k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what is wrong with this? One day I make him happy and the other day he will give me back :) Everybody does it if he/she is really in love.
If somebody only takes and doesn't give anything, it is another thing. Fortunately I don't know this kind of men.
2006-08-28 07:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ina K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YAH 365 DAYS A YEAR!! I HAVE SEX WITH MY HUSBAND ALMOST EVERYDAY AND I DO JUST TO MAKE HIM HAPPY!! HE GETS IN A REALLY BAD MOOD WHEN I TELL HIM IM NOT IN THE MOOD BECAUSE HE IS ALWAYS IN THE MOOD BUT I FIGURE THERE WILL COME A DAY WHEN HIS WEENIE WONT WORK ANYMORE SO I FIGURE I WILL LET HIM GET HIS KICKS NOW :)
2006-08-28 07:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrage should not be selfish. If you both go into it looking for ways to please eachother you will be fine.
If you find yourself refusing sex because you do not feel like doing it he will find a way to have his urges satisfied and then there you will be, wondering how this happened.
2006-08-28 07:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I used to all the time with my ex. I hated sex with him. He was awful and very selfish. (But he thought he was sooo great!) But with my boyfriend, I always want it. He is great, and he makes me feel great. He isn't selfish at all. He always wants to make sure that I am satisfied.
2006-08-28 07:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lyrical Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never turned my fiance down for sex. I would prefer to satisfy him and keep him happy. I don't see anything wrong with that.
2006-08-28 06:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by orionsgirl76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋