in a dating/engaged/married relationship...the woman will seem to listen but then invariably pursue her needs and wants...how can a compromise be struck...and both the man and womans needs be met in part or in whole!?
2006-08-28 06:53:34 · 6 answers · asked by jamie p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Very good, even excellent question. IMHO it cuts both ways. Often it appears that one of the two do not require their needs be met, their views heard, their desires respected. I know of no way except for each to first realize what they need and then require give and take from their partner.
2006-08-28 07:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this issue can go both ways. A man or a woman could have asked this question.
Relationships are also about compromise. They have to be for both to feel valued by their partner.
However some participants in relationships do not want to realise this. They want or prefer to stubbornly and methodically follow their own interests only. Even if doing so is not in the best interests of their partner.
Could it be you are dealing with a selfish partner? Could this mean they choose not to respect you and your wishes?
Does this sound like someone who cares for you much beyond your possible usefullness to them (in other ways, e. g. financially? Social appearances?)
And if not, how would you feel about continuing a serious relationship with this person if you knew they might never change? Would there be a point? Other than to feel indefinitely insignificant to your partner? It's not pleasant, considerate or healthy for your self-esteem. And why would they want to put you through this?
Without having more details about whether this is a temporary recent thing in your relationship in reaction to something, or whether it's just always been like this is not evident from the question, so it's hard to make absolute statements, of course.
If it's on-going and systematic, it may be less painful for you to end the relationship sooner rather than continue like this forever, if the behaviour is parasitic. Only you can judge what you can or cannot take, what's really going on and what's involved in the big picture.
Good luck - but I believe you should make sure both your opinions and requests should be respected by one another to make a long-term and happy success of it.
2006-08-28 14:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by Soul999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you never listened to her and now you need her to listen, she's all burned out... ever thought of that?
2006-08-28 14:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make ur desires clear, reasonable and stand ur ground.
2006-08-28 14:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're talking about trying new things and being satisfied, after telling your partner, try bringing it up again during sex, like as foreplay.
2006-08-28 14:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she dismiss you because you dismiss her feelings too.?
2006-08-28 13:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by cathy p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋