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We have been daying for quite some time now. Her family wants us to get married. They said that she should not let me get away. I do EVERYTHING for her. Cook, clean, laundry, make her lunch, take her to and from work. I am currently trying to get her a car of her own. We have a great relationship, but she still wants to wait. I think she's afraid of committment, but I'm not sure.

Any advice for me?

2006-08-28 06:52:49 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

38 answers

If you have to convince her... then I wouldn't.

2006-08-28 06:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think you have to take a good hard look at yourself and answer the following questions:

1. Why am I doing everything for her? Is it because I'm scared to lose her?
2. Why do I have to beg someone to marry me?
3. Do I want to be married to her?
4. If she still doesn't want to marry me, is she worth the wait or is it time to move on?

Now let me give you some in-site on these questions:

1. If you are doing everything for her, you need to stop. She has to do something for you as well. Relationship is give and take on both ends.

2. If you have to beg someone to marry you, what makes you think the marriage would work if you have to convince her to do so? Honestly not a good way to start off from where I sit.

3. How do you feel about marrying her? Are you just trying to hang on, or do you want to settle down, you need to know this.

4. If she is worth the wait, don't pressure her. If she is not, you have to move on to find someone worth the wait and time.

Good luck.

2006-08-29 05:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0 0

Why try and convince someone to marry you? That should be something that is natural for BOTH of you. Doing all the things you have been is great and helps, but you can not MAKE her want to marry you. I would either continue with what you are doing, or end it and go find someone else. If you want to be with her, you will wait for her. Good luck!

2006-08-28 07:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by Again, you gotta ask! 2 · 0 0

Well, you're saying that she wants to wait, so for whatever reason, if she isn't 100% committed yet, then you shouldn't want to convince her. Something as important as marriage takes quite a commitment from both sides. It sounds like she isn't going anywhere, so there's no reason to rush into anything. If you two are truly meant to get married then she'll still be there when the time is right.

2006-08-28 07:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You can't convince somebody of marrying you, you can propose yourself but not convince... The person has to be very sure of what she is doing, she will regret it maybe otherwise. Give her time, don't force her to marry you, but instead ask her WHY she wants to wait and see what she says, if you think her reasons are understandable wait, if as you think she just wants you have you to have fun and no relationship then either you like that or leave her.

2006-08-28 06:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

1. Don't push her into marriage if she isn't ready.
2. Ask yourself if she really loves you, or is she simply used to having you do everything for her and doesn't want to give that up?
3. STOP doing everything for her. If she is an adult woman, she should be sharing the household duties like cooking cleaning, laundry and getting herself to work every day. Those things are NOT your job exclusively.

2006-08-28 06:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well,you should not convice her to get married,it has to come naturally.....she has to feel from inside and she has to be ready for it,marriage is no joke,its a responsibility,committment and reality....
you'v been doing all things for her,why?dont you work?you'v been doing all this to please her,whats happens after marriage,if you stop then things wont be same,think about all this,just dont think about now....its great that you have a wonderful relationship but it has to be the same after marriage too,so what are you doing about it,trying to convice someone to marry you?where do you think you are leading?
i guess just give her sometime and let her decide and discuss wth her whats on her mind?why is she taking so long?and then take a decision accordingly!!communication is must!!

2006-08-28 07:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0 0

I don't know if this qualifies as advice or just food for thought:

I couldn't help notice you didn't mention if YOU wanted to get married - you only mentioned other peoples' thoughts. Obviously you like her, but that doesn't translate to marriage.

You listed the things you do for her - what does she do for you? Again, I am assuming if you are with her, she brings something to the table, but are they what you are looking for?

Those two thoughts came to mind immediately, however it is difficult to answer a question likes this given as limited information as we were. Have you guys been dating for years? Things like that help those who would offer our thoughts.

The most important thing is to do what makes you happy. Good luck!

2006-08-28 06:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jabo the Wise 1 · 0 0

Four months ago you asked, "Am I a dog"?
Three months ago you asked, "Caught in love Triangle"
Two months ago you asked, "How do I get her back"
And now, you want to marry her????

Sounds like you lost trust, and are trying to use "Marriage" as a way to repent and get forgivness. Sorry dude, it usually takes a lot more. Plus, it sounds like you have issues with commitment, and she probably knows it.

Well, good luck on your journey, and if you really love this woman, then you will ask her to forgive you, and ask her ways to show that you will not get caught in a three some again.

2006-08-28 07:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0 0

She wants to wait. So I guess you must have talked to her. Next no brainer question you should ask her. Why does she want to wait. Don't sit there and try to figure if she is afraid of commitment. Ask her. Your not even married and your not talking things out. Not a good start.

Talk and listen to her

2006-08-28 07:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mit 4 · 0 0

Just let her know it is time to tie the knot, if she say no, ask her if she thinks that is something she will want with you. If she does not want the same future as you, then let her go and find a girl more willing to keep a great guy.

2006-08-28 06:58:05 · answer #11 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 0 0

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