would you tell him that you're ...?

Question

if you find out that you're pregnant after you break up, would you tell your ex about your pregnancy? Why or why not?

Answer 1

that's a good question. i guess it would depend on the situation. are you keeping the baby? how old are you? how long were you together? why did you break up?
i wish i had never told my daughter's father about her. he pays child support but he doesn't pay his share of medical bills or see her on a regular basis. if she wants to see him, she has to call and see if it's OK with him. he has a family now and he is such a jerk about everything. my little girl would be better off without him in her life. i wish he would just go away and leave her alone. he is involved in her life just enough to keep their relationship unstable.
he is not worthy of her.

Answer 2

I think it is the right thing to do to tell him. He needs to be resposible for that child too and you made need child support. The only thing is you may not want to if he is a really horrible person or something. But be prepared that he may think it is some kind of ploy to get him back or that it isn't his or something silly like that that men seem to do to avoid responsiblity. On the other hand you also should avoid getting back together because of the child. If you broke up in the first place then there was probably a reason. Well I tell ya, I wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now but I am sure everything will work out anyway. Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

Yes, as the father of the child he has the right to know. As a mother to the child it is your job for your unborn child to provide both parents. Children need both a mother and a father, its important for them for there development mentally and physically. If your child 10 years down the road comes down with a genetic illness passed on from the father and only the father could help, you have the right to insure that the father has knowledge of his offspring. Also do yourself a big favor and tell him so he can pay child support and support the child.

In the end telling the father is the most important thing you can do for both you and the child. You don't want to live your life with regrets so please be true to yourself also.

Answer 4

Yes I would tell him. Was it a bad break up? If you broke up on good terms he may want to help you out when/if you need him. I would tell him because he deserves to know and also because if youre gonna be going through something for the next nine months .. why should he walk away scratch free?

Answer 5

Absolutely. He and the child have a right to know. Plus, it's easier on you, because you don't feel like you're keeping a secret, and if the child decides to find their dad when they get older, it's not a shock to them when they're like, "Surprise, you're my Dad!" Plus you need all the help and support that you can get. If you want to make it easy on him, tell him you don't need your support (be sure that you actually don't first), but he will most likely want to help support the child. Best of luck!

Answer 6

Depends completely upon if he would be a decent father or not. If he is an *** with a drinking problem and a criminal record... No way. Why set yourself and your child up for a lifetime of sh*it?

If we broke up because he cheated or something trivial like that... That has little to do with a man's ability to be a dad. Plenty of dad's are fuc*k-wads in relationships with women but they are still good to their kids.

Answer 7

Yes I believe that every father has the right to know.
There is nothing that says you have to put a fathers name on the birth certificate. If you want support you have to put his name on the birth certificate, but if you and he don't want to him involved in your child's life leave his name out of it. When your child is old enough to ask tell your child the truth.

Answer 8

yes, if the baby is his then you want a father in the babys life. you should tell him. But you also have to be prepared to be called a slut and if your sure the baby is his, he might deny the fact that he is the father. Just prepare yourself so you dont get hurt.

Good luck

Answer 9

Well if you plan on keeping it, you should tell him, he may want to be a part of the childs life, acually he deserves that right as the farther. If you don't i don't know, what would be the point?

Good luck
Jenn

Answer 10

Well after you will take a decision u have to tell him about the baby and about your decision...discuss together about that.After he have to decide if he 'll be near you(no matter what decision u took)as a friend , supporting u and making things easy-er.Good luck!