you see...right now, shes sitting beside me screaming and crying..
she does that whenever she wants something. She's driving me up the wall and through the roof...lol
help me someone,please!!!!!
2006-08-28 06:28:27 · 46 answers · asked by pizzachefpizza 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her NO! Tell her to work for it... At the age of 13 she needs to start understanding the value of money, you and I know that it is not handed to you on a plate and that you have to work for it! If you dont want her to go out on a paper round or doing odd jobs, make her do housework for friends and family members... In 5 years time she could possibly be in a position where she needs to be financially independant... she needs to learn right now how to budget and earn!
2006-08-28 06:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Zoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn around and walk away. By giving her attention you are only encouraging this type of behavior. I know it's hard, and you may feel guilty, but just imagine her acting the same way at 30 and let that give you strength. Before you walk away tell her that until she can compose herself and act like a young adult you can't help her or give her anything. You can also let her know that is she wants money from you there are things she can do to earn it. Give her a list of what they are (it helps if the dollar amounts each thing is worth are next to the item you want her to do, and make sure you indicate that certain things can only be done once every x number of days. Otherwise, if brushing her teeth for example will earn her $5, she might be sneaky and do it 5 times in rapid succession to earn $25 - and that's not what you want to teach her.) If she continues to follow you around and misbehave I suggest you get yourself a nice personal music device (ipod, Walkman, CD player, whatever) and some noise canceling headphones.
Be sure to encourage good behaviors with praise and other rewards. Lead by example.
2006-08-28 06:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give into her - that's the worst thing you can do. You have to work to earn money so why shouldn't she? Tell her to get a job (a paper round or something) and start earning her own money. That way she'll appreciate it more, and be thankful for it when she starts working for real. Also, if you keep giving her money, she won't be bothered getting a job when she leaves school. Lastly, she should not be screaming and crying at her age. Take a photo or video of her everytime she does this and threated to show people. Be firm!
2006-08-28 06:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids today gets stuff too easily!! Has she done anything during the weekend that you can reward her for and give her some money??
What does she spend her money on anyway??
If it's clothes and stuff you can go buy with her and approve of it's fine because then you still have a way of regulating it and you have your hand on the pulse of it all.
But if you don't know where the money goes, I should think you will have to close the little money tap tightly!!
2006-08-28 06:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by backhand-smash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Help her get a job! Paper route, babysitting, mowing lawns. There are possibilities. Make her earn any money you give her by scrubbing the bathroom, vacuuming, mowing the lawn, cleaning the garage. When I was a kid, my dad gave me 5cents for each dandelion I pulled out of the ground with the root attatched. I made about $20.00! Give her some options and let her choose.
2006-08-28 06:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Necessity is mother of invention. This is the reason Banks were formed. Open a bank account for your daughter or have simple accounting at home itself. Give a fixed amount of money to her every month and ask her to write all her spending. Tell her that all the amount saved by her will be doubled at end of month, in return ask her to submit the account of her spending. This way she will learn how to save and her spending will be reduced. You will get the account of all her spending and she will not come to you again and again. Try this and tell me how this worked.
2006-08-28 07:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by amar4u_gzb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lost control of her. Before she gets any older, you had better regain it. Now is the time to make her realize that money really doesn't grow on trees. There's things that need to be done around the house and if she wants money from you, she'll do them. Every day or every week. Then she can collect her pay.
2006-08-28 06:35:41 · answer #7 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting her to do chores for pocket money it will teach her the value of money and that every1 has to work 4 what they want in life once she has her money explain 2 her that its hers 2 spend as she pleases but once its gone she cant have any more that will teach her 2 make her money last try giving her £10 a week if she compleats her chores which can be easy like washing up, keeping her room tidy, hoovering, dusting etc .......
hope this helps good luck!!!!!!!!
2006-08-28 06:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need a combo of Dr. Phil and Supernanny. It's tough but if you reward the screaming, it may never stop. Speak to her like an adult and tell her that you know she wants money, but that this time she is not going to get it.
2006-08-28 06:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by Fat Daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! You are a mouse and a big baby yourself! Why do you ALLOW this behavior? Why don't you slap her in to tomorrow? Put your foot down, and grab her by the arm and yank her in to the other room and soap her mouth out. If you allow a child to walk on you, then you can bet that there will be adults try it too. She is laughing at your weakness. I am too.
2006-08-28 06:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋