Is it necessary?

Question

I am 22 yrs old!! i never had sex in my life, bcuz i always believed that its better to wait till i get married, and give up every bit of my to the person that will be mine forever!! Ive seen so much diseases that comes thru sex.. its rlly scary and that makes me even more strict bout having sex with boyfriends etc..... ive been with my boyfriend for 7yrs .. since i was 14, and thank God, he never asks me about it, cuz he respects my desicion, and i think if he didnt like it he would have left me a long time ago!! nyway my whole point is, all my friends keep on nagging on me to do it, and sometimes they call me stupid and a coward etc.... but it was never that way!! its just a belief.. but how can i make them understand that its how i think and what i want!! but in a way, they always say that im trying to be moral and stuff. and yes i do!! y not? is it wrong to be moral and respectful for ones body? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!! thank u guys for ur time

U guys r awesome rlly.. i wish i can give each and every 1 of u a best answer.. i guess ill just leave it for Voting!!
p.s.. yes my boyfriend proposed to me 2months ago.. and hopefully marriage in a yr or so.. thank u alll

Answer 1

I mean i read all the answers , ive never seen such a positive postings in yahoo answers.. hey girl we r all proud of u.. friends who make u do things like that r just jelouse... they just wish they never gave up their virginity!!! i know ull be strong.. and u have a hell of a gr8 guy that loves u!! u guys r gr8!! and never give up on ur beliefs,

Answer 2

Don't feel bad. I waited until I got married. Both of us did. We were 21. It has been almost 3 years now and neither of us regret it! We are so happy and proud of ourselves for saving it till we got married. And what a wedding night! Sex is special, and isn't not special if you just do it with whoever, or anyone whom you're not married to. And don't listen to people who say that "how can you be sure you will have a great sex life with someone if you wait until you are married to them to have sex?" Sex, even though it is something natural, it is something that you have to learn. You are not born a great lover and you have to learn with you husband/wife what you like and what they like. That is part of the experience, learning what you both like. Take it from someone who has done it that way, and not too long ago, it is great! And this is coming from a woman that is practically a nympho and was a virgin until she got married. Boy what a suprise my husband got! It wasn't always easy to wait because I always knew that I was going to be a very sexual person. And knowing that, I still waited until I got married. And don't worry about your friends. When they grow up and finally mature, they will regret not waiting and saving themselves. I am proud of you. My husband and I are religious,and have always tried very hard to uphold our moral standards, even when our friends didn't. Be strong, you won't regret it! There is an article you can read on the subject of pre-marital sex at www.watchtower.org read it, it will make you feel better, and strengthen your stand on the subject!

Answer 3

I admire you so much for that. Its nice to see there's still people out there that are strong enough to have their own beliefs and do what they know is right. Good job.

If you and your boyfriend have gone that long with out having sex and you both love each other and know it then good for the both of you, good for him being a real man and not caring about that stuff. You have a good caring and understanding guy by your side.

Stick to your morals and continue to do what you wish. think of all the good things, I mean you never had to worry about having an STD and who you got it from, your not a young girl in high school who's having a baby, or by now having 3 kids and being a single mother.

Don't worry what your "friends" have to say.

Answer 4

Do not worry about what everyone else but what you and your partner think. I think it is very intelligent to wait until marriage, that is what i am doing, and i am 15. I focus my mind on where i want to go in my life: Which s a recors deal. Your friends just want you to be happy, not to hurt you, but just tell them that you think it is safer to wait until you marry to get intinate. I mean, what makes your honeymoon so special if you have went and done a whole bunch of people? I praise your decision to wait until marriage, just tell your friends not to nag you. And your boyfriend is very nice in the fact he loves you for more than your looks, since he is still with you even though he cannot have sex. Don't worry about a thing.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 5

You have great courage to take a stand and I commend you for that.There are too few that stand up for morals in this day and age. As far as your friends, there not that at all if they don't stand behind you one hundred percent. Tell them it is some ancient Zen thing, practiced in China or something, then they will think its something cool. Who cares really, your doing the right thing, and if your boyfriend has stayed the course for 7 years then he is a noble man indeed. And truly a man in the deepest of terms.

Answer 6

Only you are the one to be the judge of how you feel. Do not let anyone bully you into sex, whether it is your boyfriend or friends. You are the only one who has to live with the decision. I was one of the girls who gave it up easily, and I regret it. I applaud you on your stand and that you know yourself enough to make your own decisions. It is none of your friends business if you are doing it or not, and when the time is right you and your boyfriend can discuss going further.

Answer 7

hey girl!!
i'm 18 and I believed the same things u do..
I had some boyfriends that told me that it was time to have sex..
my boyfriend and I were virgins and he (as a man) wanted it so much but he respected me..
But I really didn't care about what people said to me.. I was so scared so I decided just to wait till marriage.. but that seemed to me eternal..
hahaha
it was my first time 2 weeks ago and I did it not because I got carried away.. I just did it because i love my boyfriend so much and he is somebody I admire..
So tell your friends you haven't found that special man in your life so u'll no regret..
I could tell you more things but its not that easy 4 me to write in english..

My recommendation: tell them u r valious and you are waiting 4 the right man.. that's it..

Answer 8

Why are you putting so much emphasis on what they think?!!? Thats just crazy. Your the better person for holding out. And your man is even better for waiting with you! You guys will have the most electrifing sex ever once you get married!

Answer 9

They aren't really your friend then, and probably not the best people for you to hang around. Are you engaged to your boyfriend of seven yours, is he the one for you?

YOu will regret having sex before marriage if you have been committed to staying pure. I did and still do, and I married the man. I am know divorced, and if I would not have given in to those pressures my life would possibly have been where Iwanted it to be at this time.

Answer 10

I'm in the exact situation, but here is a word to the wise, "Never ever listen to people beacuse all they want is the destruction of the other"
They envy you for your virginity, but i say GO GIRL, keep your virginity, and i wish i would find someone like you.