My husband is in prison for attempted murder for 28 years. 14 more if he is good. Keep your fingers crossed. It was a big misunderstanding and after we lost our trailer in the hurricain we had no money for a lawyer.
My daughter is 4 monthes old and I want her father to be in her life but is 4 monthes to young? I can visit 2 times a month and he has been asking about her.
Most of you are probally not in this situation but what would you do
2006-08-28 06:17:16 · 19 answers · asked by guess who? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I totally do not agree with the lies and the trash that You are posting.
Webster's Dictionary - liar - a person who states that something is true which he knows is untrue; person who tells lies.
The big question is why? Control? Shock effect? Dropped on Your head once? Abused terribly? Hate Your life, and everyone, everywhere? Let's talk about that.........
2006-08-28 15:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband was also in prison, I went up every chance I could usually twice a week. I believe children are to impressible and should never visit the penal system. I understand that you want your child to know your husband, but you as a parent have to do what is right for your child. As a parent I would never take our child through that.
I feel for you though because the longest walk you will ever take is when those gates close behind you when you leave him there on your visits. I wish you luck, you have many hard years in front of you. My husband did 15 years 4 months and 23 days.
2006-08-28 13:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt if there is an universally agreeable "right age" for something like this. As a parent, you must have a feeling, at a certain point, that your daughter is mature enough and educated enough to look at the situation and come to her own conclusion. Only then, your daughter is ready to see her father.
Please be sure YOU are ready to help your daughter after her first visit. She will be needing emotional support.
A family must stay intact no matter what - is more of a dream. The reality is, there are many situations this is simply not possible or desireable. Please don't go by this old rule. You can cause far more damage to already a bad situation.
2006-08-28 13:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you have had a lot of trauma in your life. You may want to check with the authorities at the prison, just to see if they have any regulations about babies visiting the inmates. If they will let you bring her with you, than you should bring her so her father can see her and spend time with her. If she is a very timid and shy baby, it will probably be traumatic for her, so you may not want to bring her more than once a month. Good luck to you and your family. I will say a prayer for you all.
2006-08-28 13:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes...let her see him. If you trust him. And...when he gets out of prison...will you two be together again?....cause then she will have be around him. YOu might as well get her used to the thought now. She will spend a lot of time seeing him like that. Get her used to it...of course in a few years explain things to her...that it isnt like that for everyone. ya know...dont make her think that it is ok to..whyen she grows up to go for a guy whos a trouble maker or anything. Cuase that will be the message given off. Just make sure she knows her dad is a great guy...it will help him to see his daughter...and her to know she does have a dad!
2006-09-01 11:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's me
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Husband is upset with my drinking?
I am 6 mon preg and drink vodka a few times a week. Hubby tells me to switch to beer because it is better for me and the baby. How do I tell him to mind his own business? He smokes weed and I don't complain. He is such a hipicrat.
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2006-08-28 15:09:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. He IS her father.
I did visits for Child Protective services (supervised visits for children taken out of the home).
Many Many of the visits were coordinated in the Prisons !!! so yes you should.
good luck and dont deprive your daughter of her father..
2006-08-28 13:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the same husband you had sex with last week at home as posted in a question last week??? You need to get a life and stop wasting people's time on here ...
2006-08-28 13:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by Weasel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have her be as involved with him as she possibly can be. Try and make the best out of a bad situation. Everyone makes mistakes, and she has the right to know and love her father. Especially if he wants to see her, too.
2006-08-28 13:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Ralley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to start getting your stories straight! Either he's in prison or not because just last week you said that you slept with him. So which is it??? I think that you are a pathalogical liar! Or you are attention deprived! Either way-please get some help!
2006-09-01 04:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by sofina_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋