How should a guy tell his girlfriend that she is gaining weight without upsetting her and hurting her feelings?
2006-08-28 06:14:39 · 20 answers · asked by candy m 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Maybe try getting the two of you involved in some activities that would encourage her to lose weight, like maybe taking an evening walk or a walk in the morning before work together, tell her that you want to odo this together so that you can be together longer and healthier. Start cooking more, maybe if you cooked some healthier items...she would lose the weight, stop going oout to eat, that just makes it worse, huge portions, fried food...none of it is healthy. Try that and see what happens.
2006-08-28 06:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by radioradioradio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, is she gaining a little weight or a lot? Is she actually overweight? I don't like the idea of telling a girl to slim down if she has gone from a size 2 to a size 4. But if she is actually overweight, then you can tell her that you are concerned about her health. Also you can suggest that you both exercise together, maybe take up jogging or join a gym (if you haven't already). Don't be blunt with her, it will probably hurt her feelings. HTH.
2006-08-28 07:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh what a touchy subject. My boyfriend thought I was too skinny when we first started going out (we've been goign out for a year and a month), and the other day he said i had gained weight. So i just stopped eating. You cant tell a person like me that I gained wieght ( I mean it was like maybe 2 pounds I gained in a year but still). I've been anorexic. I am considered anorexic because of my BMI (I'm 17 and I am 5'2" and 85 pounds so my BMI is 15.5...if you have a BMI of less than 17.5, you're considered anorexic). So unless she has high self esteem dont even mention it to her unless she gained like 20 pounds. 5-10 pounds is not a big deal for most people.
2006-08-28 06:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm hoping you are "concerned" about her weight gain for health reasons and not those of vanity!!!
Anyway, telling a woman of any age she is gaining weight is like standing in front of a fast-moving train!!! You're going to get splattered. You could try suggesting joining a health club together, walking/jogging together, or doing some sort of menu planning/cooking together that would include healthy, low-fat choices. However you choose to discuss this, I would try to make it a joint effort. Not to imply you need to lose weight too, but she may not take it as personally if you go into it jointly. It may be taken you care about her health and wellness and are willing to take the "challenge" on yourself WITH her instead of FOR her.
Good luck!!!
2006-08-28 06:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't because he can't. Telling a person who believes that you love them that there's something wrong with them does, in fact, hurt and upset them.
If it's true that she's gaining weight, she knows about it, as her clothes are getting tighter.
If you don't really love her (since you care more about her weight than about her, I conclude you don't really love her), you need to deal with THAT.
Look at it this way, how could she tell you that she finds you repulsive without upsetting you or hurting your feelings? There isn't a way, is there?
2006-08-28 06:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beg my husband to tell me if he ever thinks I'm gaining weight because I always want to look my best for him! But since that is not the case with you try buying her the Carmen Electra Stripperobics DVDs.They are fun! Tell her that you wanted to get it for her because You think that she would enjoy it and you now that you will enjoy it! And it is a great workout. In regards to that, if she makes a comment about the "workout" part just say "Well I heard that it is fun and it is a great gift for a girl, and that girls are always looking for a workout that is fun to do." That is what I would like to hear anyways.
2006-08-28 06:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely should discuss it with her!! Gaining weight can lead to serious health risks if it gets out of control. Just approach it like any other serious subject. Honey, I don't want to argue or offend you, but I have noticed you have put on some weight. I want you to be happy, but I also want you to be healthy. What do you think?
2006-08-28 07:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by lilqtpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to take walks with you. Buy different foods like salads and just food that won't make her gain so much. Take her swimming it loses some weight. You can always have her go to gym with equipment like a YMCA they have weight lifting, running track, swimming pool, Sauna, Hot tub. burn off some fat if she go's in a sauna, Hot hot room.
2006-08-28 06:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it bother you that she gettin a little chunky?? Girls almost always gain weight in relationships. It's just part of nature. Don't be a jerk though, don't tell her cause she probably knows...
2006-08-28 06:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are not shallow you *****... how can you say that physical attraction is not part of a relationship... isnt that how most people (and the entire animal kingdom) go about finding a mate... on the other hand dude, i have no idea how to tell a girlfriend that...lol
2006-08-28 06:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by dial_h_for_hero_156 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋